Mother's Day flowers for closest griend

[someonewhowonders]

Hi, my first post on this site and I'm looking for opinions. Today I ordered Mother's Day flowers for my closest friend. My friend is a mother of 4, works full time, gets an awful lot of grief off her mother, her husband isn't always as charming as he'd seem to her but she's beautiful, special & plays herself down. She's let me vent at her so many times & I've been so proud to have her as my friend. I don't think I'd be here now if it weren't for her. So today I decided to order flowers for mothers day and get them delivered to her home. Now I'm panicking. I'm worried her kids (14, 13, 11, 9) will be upset by the delivery (I realise she's their mum so it's their day with her), her husband might be annoyed too (even if she's unlikely to get anything off him without serious prompt dropping) and I don't want her to think it's daft. What would you think if you received flowers from a friend on Mother's Day? I'm half considering cancelling the order. Honest opinions welcome.

I think it's lovely and if anyone's offended, after all she does for them, they can shove it!

I think it’s a bit weird to be honest and I wouldn’t know how to take it. Can you just change the date so they’re “thank you for being a fab friend” flowers rather than mother’s day ones?

If anything, your flowers on Mother’s Day might highlight the lack of anything from the husband and make her feel worse.

So you think it was a bad mistake?

I don’t know about a “bad” mistake, but I’d definitely change the order.

Thing is said friend knows what I'm like. She's had flowers off me before (birthday, Xmas, because her mum was driving her insane) so it wouldnt be a complete surprise to her. It's more that I don't want to take anything away from Mother's Day being about her being a fantastic mother. To give them on any other day would just seem random if I'm completely honest.

Thankyou 😊

I didn't cancel them in the end. She text me this morning to say thankyou and they were much appreciated. She's a lady of few words so I'm quite happy with that reply 😊. She sent me a photo and they are lovely. I'm so glad now I didn't cancel them as I know what "much appreciated" means in her language ❤️.

I've only just seen your thread I'm so glad you did send them I think it shows what a lovely relationship you have with your friend.

I have 5DC and a DH and I'm really lucky that they all remember Mothers Day and really spoil me but today was by far one of my best Mothers Days ever.

Our DD14 had bought me lovely presents and a lovely card and her bestfriend was with her when she gave me the presents and then her BestFriend handed me a bunch of beautiful Roses,at first I thought they were from my DD but they weren't, her Bestfriend had got up early this morning and spent ages finding me just the right flowers(my DD's words)because in her Bestfriens words she doesn't have a Mum(she does but the women is awful and picked her partner over her own child)and she wanted to thank me for being there for her.

Now if she'd asked other people first they might have told her it wasn't right or appropriate but it was and it was one of the most loving things a little girl that often feels lost could ever have done for me and I know it's helped her not feel bad about Mothers Day.

ohtheholidays that is just lovely. What a beautiful thing to do, bless her. In my case with my friend, I guess I kind of see her as a bossy big sister. I have a sister who's 5 years younger than me, but my friend just tells me what to do sometimes because she can see that I'm a bit lost (that's a really good word you used in your reply!) and need someone to say something. I'm not going to see her now for a fortnight but I'm really glad I didn't cancel the flowers because sometimes she herself needs to know she's very much cared about as her husband is miserable at times with her. He's also my friend but I love her to bits 🙂