Please redirect me if this is best placed elsewhere.
My ex has been unable to have our 2 children overnight for over a year now due to unfit living conditions, at one point he was living in his car ( don’t feel sorry for him he works full-time but chooses to spend his money in a pub, gamble and snort it up his nose) So all of last year we ( my partner and I) accommodated him, let him spend time in my house to see the children. He would take them out for a couple of hours at a time infrequently. We have at times fed him and let him shower at my house. I didn’t receive maintenance for the first 6 months of last year either but since has paid regularly every fortnight.
He mentioned a week ago his parents will have the children sleep at theirs every other Saturday night, he wants to pick them up at 4pm Saturday and drop them back Sunday afternoon then following weekend take them out Sunday daytime we have said no to this as the overnight stay clashes with when we have my partners daughter stay. We want to have all 3 children together at the weekend.
So now he’s threatened to take it further and will be stopping maintenance until it’s sorted out! I don’t want my children to not see their Dad but at the same time won’t be bullied into compromise. He won’t change the Saturday he wants them overnight as that’s the weekend his mates have their kids and in his words ‘ why should I have to spend the time on my own with our kids when none of his mates have theirs’ I’m honestly not being awkward but I want my children here when their step-sister comes to stay.
A couple of his mates have even told him he’s being unreasonable and it’s not his decision but he’s just not seeing sense
I’m so cross about it as both my partner and I have gone out of our way to help him last year with various stuff