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Colleague/friend doing my head in, please help!!

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Scotschic · 17/02/2018 18:36

So I’ve been working at my work on and off for a few years & Miss X -who the thread is about- has also worked there on and off for longer than me.

I went back to this place of work in September and so did she, when we worked together before then her and I would text each other, have a laugh at work, that sort of thing although I never classed her as a friend, anyway I left work and also lost my phone at the same time and so that was the end of that. Anyway she comes back in September & we swap numbers again etc,etc, and the problem is is that she won’t stop fucking texting me (excuse my language but I’m frustrated) everyday, even when it’s her day off then she still texts to ask what’s happening at work and if I don’t reply then she sends me a ‘I’m worried about you’ text which I’ve now realised is a ploy for me to text her back, sad isn’t she, and she doesn’t live in the city and so she was asked to come in early the next day one week and she asked to stay the night with me, totally putting me on the spot and I was pretty annoyed about that although I was a bit of a sh*tbag & didn’t mention this to her but I made up the excuse that my daughters friend was also staying and so there was no room and I could tell she didn’t believe me and so she actually asked me a couple of questions to catch me out!! The damn bloody cheek of her!

Anyway the constant texting is still happening and so I now have another number that she doesn’t have and I keep the one that she has for work only, her face was a picture when she saw my new phone yet I wasn’t offering her my number, nobody from work is getting that number tbh and so it’s not only her but I was quite pleased that she looked pissed off that she wasn’t going to get the number.

She used to run my work many years ago as her then boyfriend was the boss and he still is except he is now married to someone else and she is the boss as he’s working away at the minute, and Miss X can’t seem to stop going on about when she ran the place and when she was going out with boss, etc, etc, bear in mind this was back in the mid 90s & Miss X is happily married to someone else and so is the boss, anyway it’s always the boss that does the shifts and about 2 weeks ago I had planned for the Friday night off and my boss knew it so then Miss X comes on shift and asks me if I could work the Friday & I asked her if our boss had put her up to asking me as I had already told her that I couldn’t and Miss X did not look happy at all, she replied, with a ‘if looks could kill look’ that it was her that was asking as she was using her own initiative -now there’s no room for promotion in this place, unless my boss gets divorced- and to obviously kiss the bosses arss, it’s always been the boss that does the shifts, it’s never been anybody BUT the boss so don’t know what Miss X is playing at!

I’ve also been asked twice by Miss X if the other staff members know that she used to go out with the boss, I said not to my knowledge, she wishes that they knew, who bloody gives a shit, it was nearly 24 yrs ago, she is so full of her own self importance it’s unbelievable, everything is about her, her, her and I’m actually beginning to not like her in all honesty and it’s due to the many texts, I don’t want an atmosphere at work as we’re on a lot of the same shifts but I want the constant texting to stop without me having to switch my phone off all the time, please help??

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RiotAndAlarum · 17/02/2018 19:38

You sound annoyed enough to tell her to stop it, without feeling guilty... so do it! Smile

Scotschic · 17/02/2018 20:33

RiotAndAlarum

I think I’m gonna have too; I’m just going to say that there is no need for her to text me everyday, my own family and friends don’t even text me everyday, as it’s getting a bit annoying and I’ll speak to the boss about her trying to organise shifts.

Thanks x

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RiotAndAlarum · 17/02/2018 21:24

You really aren't wrong to tell her enough is enough. This is a crazy level of drama, and you you don't need to end up being labelled an ally of hers at work!.

Scotschic · 17/02/2018 21:53

RiotAndAlarum

Miss X is 45 years old, would you believe it?! A grown woman acting like this!! She is so annoying and self involved and she has already tried to use me as an ally at work against a woman that she doesn't like there!! How juvenile!

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RiotAndAlarum · 17/02/2018 23:56

Oh, no, glad you're on to her! Ganging up on her enemy/ies (not even your own enemy!) would not go well for you, and why should you get into trouble and hurt someone else for no reason whatsoever?

Have you asked your line manager to help you push back agsinst her, for example the rota stuff?

Scotschic · 18/02/2018 12:48

RiotAndAlarum

I can’t really change my shifts and Miss X can’t change hers although I may act a bit daft and ask my boss ‘who is it that does the shifts because...’! Miss X will be in later today & im already feeling pissed off because when works quiet then she constantly tries to talk to me, even when I’m reading on my kindle or playing on my phone she doesn’t shut the hell up! She also nips out for a ciggie at the same time as me and I can’t even make a call because there’s no privacy here.

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RiotAndAlarum · 20/02/2018 06:52

I'm having visions of her following you into the ladies' and talking to you through the door, like an overgrown toddler! Grin

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