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Spa break drama

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MissJaySays · 05/02/2018 18:36

Basically my friends boyfriend invited me to join her on a surprise overnight spa break he booked her for her birthday.

I agreed as I thought it would be lovely, thinking about it later I realised it really isn't my friends kind of thing, she isn't a very touchy feely kind of person, she's quite hard to please and I realised It might be abit awkward as I don't think she'll enjoy it, and we will both be stuck there over her birthday.

Anyway I haven't said anything because it really isn't my place, he's a lovely guy and just wants to do something nice for her.
Today I was with her and she said 'I think BF has booked a spa break for my birthday' I said 'oh, why do you think that?' She gave a reason, something that her sister hinted at. She then went on to say that she really wouldn't like that as she doesn't like being touched, and how she would have to act happy but would really be abit disappointed.

To be fair they've been together longer than I've known her and I know that it isn't really her idea of a good time, he should definitely know this.

What do I do!? Do I tell him she knows? Do I also mention she really isn't keen? I feel like it really isn't my place to say. We aren't BEST friends, but we are good friends and I do know her quite well, we work together so spend 10 hours a day together. How awkward when I turn up to pick her up, knowing she doesn't want to be there and then have to spend 2 days there. I also think she will be presuming it will be for him and her, not with me!
Should I not say anything and when we get there, we can just drink? 🍷
A spa break is right up my street, especially a free one!

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WeeMadArthur · 05/02/2018 18:39

Well these things need a notice period to cancel or rearrange, so if she really won’t like it you should tell him so he can cancel in time.

MissJaySays · 05/02/2018 21:34

We'd go and have a laugh and it'd be fine, she wouldn't HATE it. But there would be other ways she could enjoy her birthday more.

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MiddleClassProblem · 05/02/2018 21:40

If it was just a few hours she wouldn’t have to have a treatment and just use the jet pools/ sauna/ jacuzzi/ ceramic beds or whatever but a weekend it just won’t work.

I’d tell him. Just say it came up as she was talking about someone doing it for a hen at work or something and she was saying how much she wouldn’t like it. Hopefully he can cancel it with out too much charge and maybe book a weekend in a nice hotel for them or you guys maybe with a place of interest?

Estellanpip · 05/02/2018 22:23

Just tell him not to book any treatments. They are usually additional anyway.
I can't be doing with being touched, I don't even like getting my hair done. But I'd love a spa weekend. I'd probably laze around the pool, the sauna, eat, drink, eat, drink, relax, see what's local, enjoy the hotel's surroundings then eat and drink a bit more. It's what you make it!

MissJaySays · 05/02/2018 23:21

See that's what I was thinking, just a chill out by the pool, possibly a manicure if we're feeling really into it. Our job is super stressful we are trapped in a room with 20 three year olds for 40 hours a week so abit of peace and quiet will be lovely.

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MiddleClassProblem · 05/02/2018 23:58

Then ask him not to book treatments. Is the hotel rural? Potential for a walk or a scenic drink?

MissJaySays · 06/02/2018 08:12

Thanks everyone, It'll be fine. He hasn't booked any treatments which is good, any we do fancy we can book ourselves when we get there.

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Estellanpip · 06/02/2018 09:05

Sounds lovely, enjoy!

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