I would like to get other people thoughts. My ex and I are not together, we split up a year ago (never lived together) but still get on really well. We have a 3 year old. I am looking to go on holiday with a couple mates for 3 days. Problem is the last time I went on a girls holiday about a year and half ago I got moaned and shouted at how I shouldn't go away for 3 days with my mates leaving my child at home (with him), child is not behaving themselves etc. My 2 friends had the same thing from their exs. Kind off ruined the few days for all of us. Thing is we went to a quiet hotel and barely drank just lounge by the pool. Now we want to go again but friends are leaving their kids with their parents this time and I want to do the same. However as me and ex get on I feel bad for wanting to do that but I also know I will get calls and texts about child mishaving, playing up and not sticking to routine and it's my fault, whereas my parents would deal with grandchild and definitely stick to routine. Child see his dad regularly but dad never stick to routine despite asking me what kids routine is. Part of me thinks to let dad have child but then my holiday won't be spoilt if my parents have child. What do you think?