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Accepting Job A but still applying for Job B

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Luxecalmeetvolupte · 02/02/2018 16:23

Dilemma!

Am currently on maternity leave and DD is only 8 wks old (also have DS aged 3). Current job is mediocre, I'm good at it and have a good boss but wider team and environment is awful and institution is going through wide-reaching change, but which won't hit my area until after I return. It's 4 days a week but with 1 at home, commute over an hour each way driving. Was planning to take at least 9 mths off this time as I'm in no hurry back to a fairly miserable environment.

Applied for Job A which is a similar role but a bit closer to home, was interviewed and have been offered the role - matching 4 days and my (high) salary but less holiday. People seem nice and they're obviously keen to get me on board, but role is definitely more of the same and I'm not sure whether it's worth risking that the environment might not be that much better.

Meanwhile Job B, which is a much better role in terms of challenge and career direction, has come up at my ideal institution with a really short commute, but which might mean me having to work 5 days - I'm not averse to this given the short commute as I think it'd oddly be better for family life (currently don't get home until after 7 on my working days, this would mean I can do dropoffs and pickups). Haven't applied yet but it closes next week, obviously no guarantees but I should at least be shortlisted (niche role in niche sector, which also means roles don't come up that often).

Both roles likely to require me to curtail my mat leave (grump) but I guess I should think long term.

Preference definitely for Job B but I might not get it - all good if I do.

So what would you do?

A - Accept Job A in the meantime so I have an escape route, and deal with unpleasantness of pulling out at a later stage if successful for Job B

B - Decline Job A as not worth the risk and take full mat leave or look for something else if I don't get Job B

Assistance please! :)

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Lucymek · 02/02/2018 16:28

Accept job A and apply for b

It's what's best for you so who cares. Everyone's replaceable they won't cry for too long.

Niceworkifyoucangetit · 02/02/2018 16:38

I had a similar problem recently (but without the maternity leave issues and with a different set of pros and cons). I ended up accepting job A. Job B and others are still in progress.

Niceworkifyoucangetit · 02/02/2018 16:39

It feels very selfish but in the end I think it's the rational option.

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Luxecalmeetvolupte · 02/02/2018 19:26

Thanks both. I think the mat leave thing is clouding my judgment - I probably need to make the decision as if I were going back to old job or new job at exactly the same time. And you're both probably right - nobody else is going to look out particularly for me!

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Owletterocks · 02/02/2018 19:35

I don’t think I would accept the same job in a different place at the expense of my mat leave but I might sacrifce mat leave for a dream job so based on that I would go for option b if it were me

RandomMess · 02/02/2018 19:43

@Owletterocks makes a very valid point IMHO

ICantFindAFreeNickName2 · 02/02/2018 19:57

I agree with Owlettersrocks - turn down Job A , if you don't get Job B, at least you can have your full maternity leave.

Mumoftwoyoungkids · 02/02/2018 20:26

How big is your industry? The one I work in is very small (and incestuous) and if you upset people at Job A will almost certainly be interviewed by their wife for Job C in the future!

Luxecalmeetvolupte · 03/02/2018 03:27

Mum Big enough to avoid that but obviously I don't want to cause unpleasantness if at all possible.

Owl that was my initial reaction but then I'd still be going back to a grim commute and to somewhere which might make me redundant, never mind the awful people, having turned down an opportunity elsewhere. I'm wondering whether I can push them a little on accommodating a later start date.

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Luxecalmeetvolupte · 05/02/2018 13:25

Thanks again everyone. I've turned down Job A - even though they actually offered to let me have my full year maternity! - as the other practicalities meant I'd effectively be paying to work there. Onward!

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Owletterocks · 05/02/2018 21:36

Enjoy your mat leave op! And good luck with job B

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