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Abortion... never imagined being in this position

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Jod07 · 30/01/2018 13:57

I know I am making the right decision but it doesn’t make it any easier. After a few days missed period I began to over think and sent my husband to the shop for a pregnancy test. All along in the back of my head thinking it would be ok and I was just over thinking things. I was sure I would wake in the morning with my period. Nope the 2 lines appeared on that stick and I haven’t been able to stop crying (howling) since! I already have 2 amazing children and have had 2 very traumatic pregnancies. My husband has an appointment next week for a vasectomy! Which has been booked since November! We took so long to finally decided if we were or weren’t having any more kids and when we finally decided he had to wait 4 months for his appointment! I am so disappointment with myself for falling pregnant in this time frame and for even considering termination. I just feel it is the right decision for my family. I have just started a new job, my kids are at school and we are able to do so much things together as a family, we would need to cancel our family holiday as it’s booked around when I think I will be due 😭 and on top of that I just couldn’t afford childcare and everything all over again! I just love my life the way it is! I know I’m rambling but I just wondered if anyone has been in a similar situation and how did/do you cope with it 😭 I’m heartbroken tbh and so disappointment in myself please let me know everything is going to be ok.....

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MrsMarigold · 30/01/2018 14:06

Do it for the DC you already have, I'm sorry you have to make such a difficult decision but big unmumsnetty hugs. I'm not best qualified to offer advice but try and find a therapist who is able to help you.

Ember12 · 31/01/2018 14:14

The only advice i have is please be 100% sure on this before you make your decision its something that will stay with your no matter what you do. If there doubt about going through with it sit down with your oh and seriously talk it through.

Jod07 · 31/01/2018 23:08

Yeah like that wasn’t the first thing we done! Thanks for that amazing advice!

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Jod07 · 31/01/2018 23:09

That you so much, means a lot x

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Jod07 · 31/01/2018 23:09

Thank**

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gottachangethename1 · 31/01/2018 23:13

Only you and your dp know what is best for your family. It must be a very difficult position to be in.

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