I have a friend who I met through work. I’ve known her just over a year and we regularly go out together and I enjoy her company. She left for another job so we don’t work together anymore. Things she says niggle me and I struggle to believe that this many bad things can happen to the same person in one year? For example, she’s supposedly been in a relationship twice during this last just over a year. She told me that the first guy turned stalkery, turned up on a night out with a mutual friend, turned up at work and another colleague asked him to leave. I mentioned it to the mutual friend and said how weird and she didn’t know what I was talking about, she said no guy turned up. I didn’t mention it directly to the colleague but I saw him the next day after she’d phoned me in tears saying he’d turned up at work (we work different hours so I wasn’t there at the time) and I feel like he would’ve said something to me, knowing that me and her were good friends. She said the second “boyfriend”, who I saw lots of pictures of but never of them together or anywhere she’d been, both didn’t have Facebook, desperately wanted another baby (he was already married with a daughter but their relationship was failing - apparently) so turned up at her house with pregnancy vitamins, ovulation tests and oily fish. And she carried on seeing him. I just can’t see how it’s plausible and how any sane person would carry on that relationship. She told me her mum had booked a surprise weekend away for her and her boyfriend last year and it wasn’t cancelable, she wished her mum hadn’t interfered and booked it etc as they split up so I went with her. When we got to the hotel, she handed over her card. I remember saying I thought your mum had paid for it and you knew nothing about it? And she said her mum had transferred her money to pay for it but she booked it in her own name. So it wasn’t a surprise then? It just doesn’t add up, but recently the things she’s telling me have got a lot more sinister. She has a disabled sister with severe autism, and she phoned me one day in tears to say that it’s come out that the respite place her sister has been going to have been molesting her. I was obviously shocked and went round to comfort her, and she said not to mention it to her mum because it would upset her knowing I knew. I wouldn’t have mentioned it anyway but to specifically ask seems like she’s hiding something. Then, she went on holiday with all her family (her son and sister too). To the same resort they always go to and have done for years. She says that on the first night she went drinking with two of the bar staff who took her down to their quarters in the basement and raped her. She says she told her mum. I told her she needs to phone the police, she says they wouldn’t believe her. They have booked to go back there next year - surely that wouldn’t happen?! There was a Facebook message from the manager saying to please leave it, but the way it was worded sounded more to me like she’d had an infatuation with one of the bar staff and she was hounding him and the manager asked her to leave him alone. Then, on a night out with a colleague (who she’d added on Facebook and messaged a few times to ask for help regarding work - nothing personal, she showed me the messages) she went on an almighty strop because he kissed someone after leading her on. Except to anybody else, he had done nothing to lead her on. The final thing was Thursday night. She told me she’d been seeing a councillor. I asked why, and she told me it’s come out through work (?) that her dad groomed her as a child. She kept saying she felt dirty and work were referring her to the adul safeguarding board. I don’t know what to think - if all this has happened to her and I don’t believe her then I’m the worst friend ever. But so many things just don’t add up. Is she a fantasist? Or a liar? I’ve never dealt with anything like this before so I don’t know what to do. Can I maintain a friendship with her? 