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charley30 · 25/01/2018 12:54

Can anyone advise me on the way forward . I don't know how to go about getting my partner to leave my home totally without him getting angry . My child and I have gone through enough of his dysfunctional behaviour . I am feeling guilty that my child has had to witness a decline in my health and confidence due to being ignored and disrespected by my partner who has no clue how to be a partner of father . We have not spoken in 6 months while he stays in his fathers home at night but continues to come here and interact with our daughter . The house is in my name . I am frightened of his temper . He has never physically abused me but I realise now that I have been emotionally abused all this time . Isolated . Ignored . Disrespected . Unsupportive . Please give me the best advise I need as my child is in his early teens and has started to have angry outbursts and easily upset . I'm so angry that she is being affected by him and do not want him to ruin her emotional health the way he has mine . Please tell me how to go about getting him to stay away as he is very hard to communicate with and I feel afraid for mine and my child's well being .

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Poshindevon · 25/01/2018 20:19

The house is in your name so change the locks and refuse to let him in, if he kicks off call the police.
He cant just come into your home when it suits him.
As your child is a teenager she can say when she would like to see her father and it needs to be somewhere other than your home
It sounds as if your child is already affected by her fathers behaviour and I would seek help for her in the form of counselling.

charley30 · 26/01/2018 09:04

Thank you x

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charley30 · 26/01/2018 09:04

Can I ask what type of counsellor to look for ?

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Poshindevon · 26/01/2018 09:24

Go to your GP and explain the situation they can arrange counselling or the school.may have access to counselling.
Your child has been affected by her father and you. He is aggressive you are passive she needs to talk through her difficulties with this and her feelings. What she grew up with is not acceptable behaviour.
Does she want to see her father?

charley30 · 27/01/2018 13:49

Yes she does . i will sort this asap . I am concerned for her as I know how I have been affected by this .

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