Together 6 years

[Lonniee]

Me and my boyfriend have been together 6 years, have a little boy and a mortgage.

I really want to get married 1- because I love him and want to be his wife and 2- because I'd love to share my son and his surname.

He has no intention in getting engaged, every time I speak about it he changes the subject or just says we are already committed why do we need to get married and then gets very annoyed at me for mentioning it.

It's really getting me down, anyone got any advice?

Change your name by deed poll to his surname?

You need to decide if not ever being married is a dealbreaker for you. It sounds like your boyfriend has been clear that it isn’t for him. Trying to talk him round won’t get you anywhere.

Has he ever implied or told you he’d like to get married in the future?

Suggest a low key registery office job to tie up legal loose ends, if he doesn't go for that then say you can spend hundreds getting legal documents drawn up for the equivalent coverage. Change your name anyway.

If he really will not marry you then change your name (I would never give my child the fathers name unless we were married)
You and OH need to make wills so that your finances and the care of your son and his future is protected.
For example if OH passed away his half of the house would not automatically come to you as you are not his wife. Do you have life insurance if so who are the beneficiarys?
These things are important and need to be considered when your not married.