Would you ask when their party is?

[IamAporcupine]

We are trying to organise DS(6) party. This year all went completely wrong and it will be nowhere near his real birthday, but he is ok with it.

One of the available dates is very close to the birthday of another Y1 boy. I know this because his birthday is the same day as mine.

Ideally, I would like to ask his mum (still have her number) when they will be having their party so that there is no risk of having them the same day.

Problem is my boy and this boy were good friends last year, but not so much now as they are in different classes, so I am not sure they would actually invite each other, but they would certainly invite some a few mutual friends.

Now that I write it down, I think I should probably just avoid the problem all together and do our party even later....

I am still trying to think how to get around this...

Just found out the next available date would be a month later!

Any ideas?

Be proactive - text the other mum - invite her ds to your ds' party.

Just pick a date and send the invites out ASAP. You are overthinking it

Your sons fell out, you didn't, just call her and ask! Done in under a minute, then you can crack on.

I'd text the other mum I think.

Just text the mum, explain you don’t want the party’s to clash so are checking if they had booked anything for that date.

OK, I think I'd text her then.

My main concern is I do not want to put her in a situation where she feels they have to invite DS to their party.

Also, just to clarify - the kids used to play together at school, and this boy came for a play date once. It wasn't that they were very close and they fell out.

I wouldn't text, I would phone her and explain (less opportunity for misunderstandings.)

strawberrypenguin I might be overthinking it. I am not from here and I am always worried I might be too upfront, too open, too friendly, too tactile, too this, too that....

I was in same situation when mine were at primary school. Me and the other mum checked with each other every year by text and there were several years we didn't invite each other's children.

Mitzimaybe I know what you mean but I would feel really odd calling her as I never did. (and have a phobia of phone conversations)

I have been in this situation: text her your date, asking if it clashes with her ans, then also invite her DS.

That way there is no aggro

He’s 6 they fall in and out of friendship all the time at that age. Just book it and invite the other boy with everyone else and then she’ll know.

My DS has a birthday on pretty much the same day as a classmate. We used to diary check with the family every year!

I should say that I started doing that because the first year my DS joined the school I didn't know the other boy had a birthday near so sent out invites. 3 kids came to the party and I only found out later it was because the other child's party was the same day. Better for everyone if you just check.

Jellyshoeshurtmyfeet Oh your poor DS!

I have been in this situation: text her your date, asking if it clashes with her ans, then also invite her DS. That way there is no aggro

My DS would probably invite hers anyway. I just do not want her to feel she has to invite mine, but I guess there is no way around that...