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What would you do - money related.

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Christmasaurus · 10/01/2018 18:44

You have the option to pay £400 for something now with a risk that it will not happen and you will lose the money. However, if it DOES happen you will need to pay for it but the cost of it may have increased to around £700.

Do you pay now and risk losing £400 completely or wait until it’s certain but run the risk of it costing a lot more?

Chances of it happening are hard to judge. Maybe 50/50 for ease!

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C0untDucku1a · 13/01/2018 10:36

Florida?

C0untDucku1a · 13/01/2018 10:38

What does your dh say?

bakingaddict · 13/01/2018 10:40

I'd book the holiday without the 13yr old step-daughter. Maybe say you'll do a city break of her choosing nearer to the time when she wants to go on holiday and leave it open like that.

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Christmasaurus · 13/01/2018 10:44

count at the moment he is leaning towards booking her flight nearer to the time. And yes, Florida.

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hevonbu · 13/01/2018 10:45

Disneyland!? I never go tot go when I was a child. I could easily come with you on the spare ticket, if you're step daughter wouldn't be interested in going, does it matter I'm over fifty?

I'll have to revise now, book the ticket.

C0untDucku1a · 13/01/2018 10:49

Would that make a difference though if she changed her mind so last minute last time?. You could end up paying £700 and her still not going! ps i can also make myself available last minute so not to waste the space

He needs to sit down with her, ask her what she wants to do, speak about options, and explain consequences for you all if she just decides not to go.

Has she anxiety? Is her mother putting any pressure on her? I do know of some who would say over and over how much theyd miss them, to create guilt and get a ‘win’ over their ex.

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Christmasaurus · 13/01/2018 10:50

hevonbu we were also going to Disney when she changed her mind about coming though!

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KungFuEric · 13/01/2018 10:50

I think there needs to be a final conversation, allow her a set period to consider be it an hour or a day, and then the answer is final.

Purchasing her ticket means her bum is sitting on that plane.

No purchse means she doesn't get to see Disney this year.

C0untDucku1a · 13/01/2018 10:50

If he is intending to book anyway, and she cancelled last time last minute, short of booking at the airport it could happen again. With that, id book now for £300, as it could be a case of lose £300, lose £700, or spend £300 and it be used.

Thatsnotmybody · 13/01/2018 10:52

OK, so you're definitely going but aren't 100% sure sd will end up wanting to come. I would book her a ticket, £400 is a drop in the ocean compared to total cost if the holiday, and if she gets wind you've booked it with out her she's likely to feel unwanted.

ATeardropExplodes · 13/01/2018 12:16

I don't understand. If she was coming last time and then decided not to go, did everyone change their plans to look after her as surely the holiday was on her time with her dad and as such she should have been on that flight? I can't imagine my stepdaughter at that age pulling out of a our trip to Florida and her dad allowing it. Bloody hell. Who rules the roost eh?

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Christmasaurus · 13/01/2018 13:45

We couldn’t exactly force her though teardrop - that would have led to a rubbish holiday for everyone!

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MessySurfaces · 13/01/2018 14:28

I'd lean to booking it. She's a kid whose parents have broken up and made new families- probably worth going out of your way to avoid any sense of abandonment. Even if she feels the need to abandon you first by refusing to go!
Obvs only if you can afford it.

MessySurfaces · 13/01/2018 14:34

(Heh, totally see why you wanted to keep it vague- it's a complicated one!)

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Christmasaurus · 13/01/2018 14:54

Yes I’m really trying to remain impartial about it and try and focus literally on the money aspect!

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hevonbu · 13/01/2018 15:18

How can you not make her if she's only 13? Does she have the right to say no and stay at home all by herself? Or is it the mum who is involved, somehow? I was never allowed to say 'no' to a trip when I was 13, had my parents decided I should go, I went.

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Christmasaurus · 13/01/2018 15:26

She wasn’t at home by herself? She was with her Mum.
The thing is, at the end of the day if we forced her to go and she was miserable the entire time how does that help anyone? It’s a bit different to a weekend away somewhere.

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MessySurfaces · 13/01/2018 21:43

Purest financially, if it's really 50-50 it makes no sense to risk 400 to save 300.
It's not purely financial though.

MessySurfaces · 13/01/2018 21:44

Purest??? Purely

Bluntness100 · 13/01/2018 21:47

I think and what it is is important.

So yes if this was my daughter I'd totally book it now and start getting her excited about it, it might not be your daughter, but it is your husbands.

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