I really some advice here, I think. A friend, who has a 30 something son with mild learning disabilities, has recently posted on FB, following a theft from his bank account of £500. It appears that at some point in the past, he gave 1 friend his PIN number, so the friend could get him some money from the cash point. At a much later point, this friend obviously told someone the pin, and my friends son found his account £500 light. The bank won't help as hey maintain the pin was given out freely - my friends son lives on his own, and is high functioning with his learning difficulties, so they say he's quite capable of understanding the need not to give his pin out. Anyway, said friend stated publicly on FB she was too hard up to help him (she works as a well paid management consultant). Having posted this on FB, and made a real sob story out of it, other friends began offering money for hard up grown up son, and friend then gave them her Paypal address so they could make donations. I m appalled by this as I think it's low, and really just scrounging !- it's made feel uneasy about my friend, as I would never dream of airing this kind of incident in "public", and then accepting money from friends for my grown up child - I'd go without myself to help him first !- and there is no doubt friend has the money to do so (although she maintains not !) AIBU ?????...or overly judgemental??,....it's made me want to distance myself from a previously ok friendship.....