Annoying mother in law

[Ella898]

Feel bad writing this but have no 1 else to talk to about it.
Me and my MIL have always got on but just recently a few things have been really getting to me.
First of all she will never offer to look after my 3 year old on average she will only have him 1 night a year and maybe 1 night every few months which I feel I have to beg for.

She always criticises how I do things eg. What I feed him, or a drink I let him have Ect..
don't like the way she tells him off in some situations.

Also she drinks a lot which at first I understood as she lost her husband and was finding things hard but it's nearly been 3 Years now and when we see each other all she ever wants to do is have a drink, on occasion I would join her but feel I don't always want to and then she will moan at me about it which makes me feel like I am back in school being pressured to do something I don't want to.

I'm beginning to not want to see her as much and when I do see her I just feel annoyed the whole time.

I lost my mum about 5 years ago and my dad lives far away so I don't really have any other close family who I see apart from her during the week which did sometimes used to be nice but now I'm not enjoying it.

Maybe I'm just being silly moaning for nothing but just wanted to get it out there really see if I am the only one with these sort of problems

Thanks all for reading

Why would you want your MIL to look after your child when you know she drinks?
Is your partner aware his mother drinks? What does he think,
It seems to me your looking for a substitute mother and your MIL is not it.
Do not listen to her criticism and if neccesary answer her back.
For example If she says dont do it this way stand firm and say thank you but this is the way I do things for my child. Dont let her tell your child off step in stop it.
You need to tell your mother in law that unless she stops drinking so much you wont be visiting her. Stop seeing her so often find other things to do.Being around a drinker is not good for anyone let alone your child.

Your child is your responsibility not your MIL’s so she doesn’t need to take him ever! You have kids you take care of them it’s not her child.

Why on Earth do you want her to look after your Dc when you complain so much about her?

Why would you want your MIL to look after your child when you know she drinks?

This!

If she does want to give up drinking, I recommend large doses of Vitamin B complex, but unfortunately only she can make that decision.

What does your DH think??

I really don't understand why people think their MILS/DMs should have the kids regularly so they can go out of an evening?!

We've been out twice in 2.5 years and each time my DM offered as it was our wedding anniversary!

It you're that bothered bloody pay someone to have your DC of an evening!