Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Original poster

PIL want to take dc on holiday.

42 replies

DeleteOrDecay · 04/01/2018 10:25

To Disneyland Paris to be exact. They are 5 and 2.5.

Dp is fine with it but I've told PIL I need a bit of time to think about it because I'm a bit nervous about dc leaving the country for the first time without us. I also wanted me and dp to be the ones to take them to DLP for the first time, but I can live with that not being the case.

WWYD? I don't know if I'm being over protective or not. If they were taking them somewhere within the U.K. I'd be fine with it but I feel like taking them out of the country without us is a bit much at their ages?

OP posts:
EarthwormsAndSnails · 04/01/2018 13:08

It depends how trustworthy and competent they are and if they have a good relationship with your DC.

If they are great GP's who look after and take care of your DC well, then it could be something to consider?

I know Paris sounds like ages away, but getting the Eurostar there and getting a train up North isn't too different.

Only do what you and your DP are comfortable doing. If you really aren't comfortable then perhaps suggest that they take them somewhere in the U.K or wait until DC are a little bit older.

If my Mum wanted to take my DC to DLP I would be ok with it. But I wouldn't let my MIL as she is unreliable, untrustworthy and doesn't see DC as much.

user187656748 · 04/01/2018 13:12

Personally I wouldn't. Could you and your DH go too?

mustbemad17 · 04/01/2018 13:15

If you trust them with DC's care then absolutely let them! My DD stayed abroad with my folks over Christmas last year (2016) & has done so again earlier this year. She's 5 & she bloody loved it!

RandomUsernameHere · 04/01/2018 13:15

Exactly what user said

BertrandRussell · 04/01/2018 13:17

What are your concerns?

May50 · 04/01/2018 13:17

I wouldn’t but then that’s me - doesn’t mean they not trustworthy but if you’re not comfortable you’re not. Why can’t you all go together?

ferriswheel · 04/01/2018 13:18

What user said.

Marcine · 04/01/2018 13:18

I probably wouldn't let a 2.5 year old go - would they even want to?

My parents took my 3 year old camping about 90 minutes away from home and we went to get him a day early because he missed me. And he loves his GPs and sees them a couple of times a week.

I would also want to take my DC on a 'big' treat like Disneyland myself, and probably wouldn't take a 2 year old on that kind of trip.

StylishMummy · 04/01/2018 13:33

For their first time at Disneyland, selfishly I'd want to be there and experience it with them. I also wouldn't want my DC going on a plan without me before they were secondary school age.

Greensleeves · 04/01/2018 13:36

It'd be a "hell, no" from me at that age.

OhPuddleducks · 04/01/2018 13:38

Do they look after your children regularly and on their own? If not (in the nicest possible way) they have no idea what it entails to look after your children for a few days on their own. I know they’ve obviously had their own kids, but all children are different and so are their needs. If you are uneasy about it I sort of think you’ve answered your own question. (And for what it’s worth, there’s no way I’d let mine go off with my in laws on holiday. We’ve had grandparents look after ours for the weekend but in our house and once I’ve left them overnight at my parents 400 miles away from where we live but that was an emergency)

FundayMorning · 04/01/2018 13:41

A 2.5yr old will get nothing out of that trip.

We took ours to Disneyland when they were 1 and 4 and neither remembers anything about it. We only did it because were in Paris for a wedding and it seemed a good idea. Actually it's a horrible place, but that's for another thread.

Only you can decide. How can any of us know? They're your inlaws - do you trust them? Are they good with little children? Will they feed them sugar all day? Do you children like being with them? Would they be homesick? Will they navigate trains and hotels successfully? Lots to factor in.

I would worry about not being the first to take them to Disney. It's crap, thoroughly unmagical unless you have very low standards for entertainment!

FundayMorning · 04/01/2018 13:42

Er, I would NOT worry about it, that should read!

FreshStartToday · 04/01/2018 13:43

I wouldn't but at .5 I know that my dcs were still v clingy. Yy to going along too if you can afford it.

KimchiLaLa · 04/01/2018 13:44

I would completely let mine go but my parents are very close to my DD and look after her regularly

starfishmummy · 04/01/2018 13:45

I think theyre a bit young yet andnI think I would want them to have done a holiday nearer home first.

PamelaBirthdaycake · 04/01/2018 13:46

No way!

Changeusername · 04/01/2018 13:57

Nope.

JediStoleMyBike · 04/01/2018 13:58

I would want to be there to experience that with them for the first time so it would be a thank you very much but no from me.

DullAndOld · 04/01/2018 13:59

not at that age, no.
Do you think that maybe PILs want to get various 'firsts' in with your children, with no real thought for their actual welfare/enjoyment?

BertrandRussell · 04/01/2018 14:05

“I also wouldn't want my DC going on a plan without me before they were secondary school ag”

Why not?

ruleshelpcontrolthefun · 04/01/2018 14:07

Fuck that! No chance.

BertrandRussell · 04/01/2018 14:08

“Do you think that maybe PILs want to get various 'firsts' in with your children, with no real thought for their actual welfare/enjoyment?”

Yeah, i’m sure that’s it. Everyone knows paternal grandparents only think of their grandchildren as pawns in a point scoring game against their daughters in law.

StylishMummy · 04/01/2018 14:10

@BertrandRussell personal preference, a flight/airports can be hugely overwhelming for some adults (me included) so as a parent I'd want to be with my children when they experienced that. The caveat for secondary school relates to foreign trips organised by school. Some may call me precious but just what I'd be comfortable with. A weekend at the coast with grandparents would be fine with me - outside the UK, no.

DullAndOld · 04/01/2018 14:12

" it. Everyone knows paternal grandparents only think of their grandchildren as pawns in a point scoring game against their daughters in law. "

well frankly you do wonder

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

Join Mumsnet Log In

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.