I need help I don't know how to start the conversation. Here we go, this is when it all started, at the beginning of my relationship with DP 6 years ago.
It's DP Auntie, I've been very friendly with everybody else in the family since the start, except her. I don't know why but it has always been awkward and uncomfortable when being in the same room as his Auntie. Don't get me wrong she isn't a horrible or nasty person it just feels like she has never made a effort to talk to me/get to know me. I don't know if she dislikes me or what? My DP says I haven't made much of a effort with her either, but I think I have. But never mind I WANT to be friendly with her. Me and DP get married in June 2018 so then we will be technically family.. so therefor should get along. Me and DP have also welcomed our first child into the world almost 11 weeks ago, so would be a great help to get along with her so she can be in DD life too.
So anyway it has been 6 years and my 'relationship' with his Auntie has not improved in the slightest. DP and me argue a lot over this matter, it's the only thing we ever argue about. DP wants me to get along with her.
I have took it upon myself to text (didn't ring as I'm not that confident) DP's Auntie and asked her if she was free for a cuppa and a chat later on. I feel proud of myself for taking the first step. I am still waiting to hear back from her, hopefully she messages back and comes. I will feel embarrassed if she ignores my message.
I am here now writing this to get some advice on how to start the conversation off with her. Should I say, I know we haven't seen eye to eye but I want to sort things out.. or what? I feel quite nervous as I don't want to make things worse. I generally want to make friends with her.
It could be that she's never really spoke to me because she feels, for some reason nervous around me? I don't want to start the conversation off by.. I know we haven't seen eye to eye because she might not have a clue what I'm on about. I don't know if she knows how I feel, so I don't want to sound like a bitch and tell her basically that I've never really liked her. But at the same time I know that I've never gave her a chance really.
So if anyone could give me some advice on how to start the conversation with her, that would be great!