Background: my DC are both at secondary school now and I no longer have anything to do with the primary school they attended. When my younger one was still there though, I used to chat to a mum there who latched onto me. At first it was ok - more for a mutual chit-chat about trivial stuff than anything else. I certainly did not consider her a friend or someone with whom I had much in common.
Two years on and she texts me and calls me, pushing and pushing to meet up for coffee. she doesn't work and I work p/t so she wants to meet in the exact same place, exact same time every few weeks. My issue with this person is that she is really really negative and very difficult to be with. When we are together, she does nothing but complain and moan. Not in a 'normal' way, but in a very intense and obsessive way. The last time we met up in November, she ranted non stop for over an hour - about her dh, her dc's teachers, her MIL, her Bil, the school.....waving her arms and her voice getting louder and louder until people in the cafe started looking over and wondering what was going on. Meanwhile I am sitting there like an idiot, nodding and making the odd sympathetic noise. It really was unbearable.
We have nothing on common and I honestly cannot bear being in her presence- it's draining and entirely negative. I get nothing out of it at all. She never asks me anythign about my own life and clearly isn't interested. I am not very good ( terrible) at being forthright though, so my question is wwyd? should I just sit there and endure every few weeks, or do I say something? and what/how?