How (should?) I repair this friendship?

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Friends for two years, used to work together, then I left. She has always been flaky- cancelled attending my birthday 30mins before etc.

The friend - Sally - did a course at my work. She dropped out on week 2 but didn’t tell me till week 8. She then text and said she was off work with anxiety and didn’t know whether to continue the course or not as she had missed a lot but was enjoying it, so wasn’t sure whether to go back or not

I replied that sometimes you have to look after yourself and other times you have to make yourself do stuff, and only she knew which it was with this.

Her partner then text me, saying I had upset her, that I didn’t understand anxiety and I was selfish. I tried calling, no answer. So I text apologising and explained I hadnt meant it harshly, more just it seemed unclear whether she wanted to continue or not.

I’ve text and apologised again and asked how she is a few times but no reply. Do I try and repair the friendship or just brush it off?

Sometimes friendships just don’t work out. I’d just move on and forget about her personally, maybe she’ll text you out of the blue one day but I’d leave it up to her. Don’t let it get to you.

Thanks. I thought we were good friends, which is why it feels odd that there is now no response from her. I’d normally just let stuff go, not sure why I haven’t with this.

I thought what you text was really good and true to the point where I thought "I'll definitely use that in the future"

It's unreasonable to say that was harsh. It's basically saying only she can make that decision.

I'd leave it now with any contact or effort in the hope that she will see sense and you weren't being a bitch. If she can't see that then it may be this is where your paths split. You can't tip toe around friends watching your words

I'd honestly move on, and secretly be grateful to be out of her orbit.