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She's being scammed

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RAINBOW · 22/12/2017 22:33

A friend of mine is lovely, kind hearted, generous, loyal and fun. However she is also easily convinced and gullible. She met a man on a dating site several months ago and they started chatting. He says he is an American soldier with a young daughter (Shane) aged 6 is deoloyed in Nigeria for 7 months. He has sent her voice messages which do not have an American accent (African I think) and videos of him and his daughter. In the videos the mman has a Cockney accent and he calls the girl Macey. He has added her on Facebook. He only joined in August (while supposedly serving in Nigeria) and I don't think it's him. A few months ago some other friends and I talked to her about him saying it doesn't added up. My friend had reason for all of it. Macey is a nickname, he's putting on voices etc. She was adamant she had not sent him money. Last night, after a few drinks, she told us that about 3 weeks ago he asked for money to apply for leave to come to hers at Christmas. He needed £475 to apply and £2600 for a plane ticket with the promise of giving her £6000 when he arrives on the 23rd (tomorrow. My friend is on benefits so has got loans out to pay him. She sent the money so now has to wait until he arrives to buy presents for her 5 children. She also said that she doesn't know how she will feed them over the school holidays as she's been taking them to breakfast club and they've been having school dinners. Everyone can see this as a scam except her. If it was just her I would let her get on with it and be There when it all went pear shaped but it's the children I feel sorry for. WWYD?

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TrojansAreSmegheads · 23/12/2017 19:12

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CremeFresh · 23/12/2017 19:16

There's a surprise Op. My friend kept being put off by a scammer because he was in MI5 and kept being sent on secret missions Hmm. Her stupidity was limitless.

Gemini69 · 23/12/2017 19:30

I'm so upset for these kids ...... FFS less than 29 hours to Christmas Day.. this has left me feeling in such despair for them....

KitNCaboodle · 23/12/2017 19:32

Those poor children. I feel really sad for them

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crazycatgal · 23/12/2017 19:36

@PurplePenguins I'm confused - if you're the OP then why aren't you posting under your other name?

Taylor22 · 23/12/2017 19:36

Can you contact their father? Clearly they need someone to rescue them.
Is she negligent in any other ways? Could her lack of common sense cause any other dangers?

Foodylicious · 23/12/2017 19:45

It's really hard for people to admit to themselves and others when they have been really foolish.
Seems easier somehow to carry on 'believing' even if they really don't anymore.
It's so sad Sad

millimat · 23/12/2017 19:55

The poor children Sad

makingmiracles · 23/12/2017 20:00

WOW. Stupid bloody women. Man she’s never met over her children’s basic needs and Christmas presents.

I actually feel sick thinking about her children, their Christmas will be awful and as someone upthread has said, they won’t ever forget it.
how does she think she’s going to feed them etc over xmas? Has she any other family around to step in? Kids dad/s?

Poor poor childrenSad

thegrinchreaper · 23/12/2017 20:42

I feel awful for the children. But won't she have already bought them presents before she took out these loans for the fraudster? Or was she skint anyway? It's sad :(

PurplePenguins · 23/12/2017 21:21

@crazycatgirl
I started the thread on the laptop an continued on my phone didn't realise my old name was on the computer.

PurplePenguins · 23/12/2017 21:23

@Taylor22
We couldn't have been any more blunt but she won't see it.

PurplePenguins · 23/12/2017 21:27

@taylor22
Don't know where the father is. He left about 2 years ago and the kids &have not seen him since. She is a good mum and has a strict routine as the youngest is 5 and autistic so needs that routine. Usually she is ok. She will usually listen to reason but this is something else. I know when her DP left she felt useless and worthless and I get Neil makes her feel loved again but it's words and not real.

Taylor22 · 23/12/2017 21:39

I can not imagine how frustrating this must be for you. Can you tell her mum?
He's going to want more money. How much further into debt can she fall?

SunshineTheMonkey · 23/12/2017 21:41

Stupid selfish woman

JustGettingStarted · 23/12/2017 22:02

The United States military pays for all transport to leave/visits home.

US military personnel always have access to their bank accounts and are able to pay their bills.

There's never a need to ask for money.

Gemini69 · 23/12/2017 22:04

I have to disagree about you believing her being a good mum OP.... your definition of a good mum is far different to mines...

these PayDay loans will start accumulating massive interest rates almost immediately... She might have to consider Bankruptcy asap... otherwise she will be paying back money hand over first and her kids will endure even more hardship .......

PurplePenguins · 23/12/2017 22:15

Her mum died a few years ago. We never knew her Dad Taylor22.
@justgettingstarted. Exactly. That is what we have been saying. He gets paid for being a soldier so doesn't need money. If he doesn't ask for more money he'll cut her dead in case he gets caught. Maybe that would be better than more money but I would prefer her to wake up and smell the coffee.

Poisongirl81 · 23/12/2017 23:03

This has made me so angry. Stupid bloody idiot..doesnt deserve her kids and I have no idea why you are friends with her!

Babababababybel23 · 23/12/2017 23:07

Her son is autistic? So she gets disability money too so that she can care for her child and give him all the extra things he needs. And then she gives it to some dickhead she has spoken to online. She can't feed her kids because of this and we are all expected to believe you when you say that she is a good mother.
I wouldn't pity her if she was my friend. I would bloody hate her

Rainbowmother · 24/12/2017 12:03

I've been thinking about this and how sad tomorrow is going to be for her children. How utterly crap their Mum is so desperate it's led to this

MotherofaSurvivor · 24/12/2017 13:19

PLEASE SHOW HER THIS THREAD!!!!!

BattleCunt · 24/12/2017 16:19

This will probably end up in the Daily Fáil.

Fishfingersandwichnocheese · 24/12/2017 16:26

To be honest if she is this stupid - stupid enough to give away all her money and then be unable to feed and look after her children then social services should be contacted for their sake.

She’s not able to provide them with appropriate care and his needs sealing with. She’s a disgrace quite frankly.