Drunk and embarrassing at Christmas Party

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Long story short, and please don’t judge, at the work Christmas party a colleague and I got really drunk and inappropriate with each other.

A lot of flirting, a lot of very up close and personal dancing, and telling each other how much we want each other. Inappropriate because he’s married and I’m engaged and that’s what stopped either of us from actually kissing the other.

I haven’t told my fiancé and don’t intend to, I was drunk and am now absolutely mortified. I cringe every time I think about it.

What do I do when I go to work tomorrow? My colleague is also my manager and we work closely together. Do I acknowledge what happened and apologise or do I pretend nothing happened?

Pretend nothing happened.

oh, hm, say something about it?
but it takes two so you shouldnt apologise.

mutter about It shoudnt have happened ?

Pretend nothing happened

Find a new job?

Also, be careful that DF doesn't find out from other people/FB etc. Photos may have been taken.

Find a new job??

I'd just laugh it off. Nothing happened!

Was being sarcastic about the finding a new job.

Pretend nothing has happened he may have been more drunk

Thank you! I know I’m panicking but I’ve never actually done anything this stupid before! I just want to cry when I think about how much my DF would be hurt if he finds out.

I don’t have colleagues on my FB - funnily enough I try to keep a line between work and life!

claim amnesia

Sorry to be negative but I wouldn’t consider lots of heavy flirting and telling each other there how much you want each other ‘nothing’ Would PP really be happy with that behaviour from their own partners?

OP I think you need to be very careful that this isn’t the start of an emotional/physical affair. You clearly both have feelings for each other. Watch out.

I don’t have colleagues on my FB - funnily enough I try to keep a line between work and life!

Sadly, that doesn't mean nobody has photos; or that he won't see them. They don't have to be tagged, someone just needs to recognise you. I hope they don't, though.

I'd be taking a look at why this happened. I'd be upset if DP did this; it'd suggest he was unhappy with something to me.

Eeek did anyone else see you two?

I agree with having a good think why this happened. Telling another person how much you want them when engaged isn’t good, however drunk you are.

Definitely pretend nothing happened. Doesn't necessarily mean you have an underlying problem with your fiancé. Chalk it up to experience: best not combine drinking with this person in future. These things usually blow over if no-one makes a fuss. If your manager mentions anything - just roll your eyes and say something like "not my finest hour" and move conversation back to work. Don't spoil your Christmas by thinking about it.

Ignore. Move on. Everyone fancies people. Many of us have done far, far worse.

In vino veritas. Drunk is not an excuse for bad behaviour.

Say nothing but think hard about if you are ready for marriage.

So how was work today?

We didn’t say anything about it but he definitely remembers. The first few times we spoke about work he had a smirk and grin on his face. I just carried on as normal...but pretty sure I acted awkward by trying to be normal! But not a peep out of either of us!

But...he did look at my chest a lot every time we spoke. One of the things I might have said on Friday night was that I wear low cut tops just for him and I like when he notices (which was drunk talk as I never ever wear low cut tops to the office). Am worried that he now thinks he has a pass to perve. Just pretended I didn’t notice but am slightly concerned about that...

Was talking to a close colleague and asked if anyone talked about any embarrassing moments involving me. She had no idea what I was on about so that was a relief. If anyone knows party gossip, it’s her.

Have thought a lot about DF and whether Friday night meant anything. Don’t think it meant anything between me and my manager, but I do think it happened because DF and I don’t have crazy fun and I miss it. Every now and then I love to dance and party and have a good time and DF doesn’t...he won’t even dance at home. It had been a good while since the party animal came out and I think that’s why I lost control. Whether that’s an issue, I don’t know...

So join a dance class or group. Only saddos can't have fun without being pissed, Im sure that isn't you.

Party animal is fine as long as it isn't drunk.

right, so you are with someone who doesn't tick some important boxes for you. What will you do next time you have a chance to let your hair down?
You know the type of man you df is, why have you chosen to marry someone who makes you feel you need to flirt the way you did?
I'm not judging the flirtingbut I'm judging your need to do it. I think you would be crazy to marry your df given the information.

You wear low cut tops for him
God that is so bad

I would look for another job

Oh I'm cringing for you

Look on the bright side, at least it wasn't all one way.

Just carry on as normal it'll soon blow over.

Hopefully the Christmas break (presuming you have one) will put an end to it all. New year and all that. Good luck.

I'm with specialsubject. I don't see how you've ended up slow dancing and saying it how much you like each other if there has really never been anything there. It doesn't add up - alcohol or no alcohol.