Do I confront by naighbours?

[Funnyfarmer]

Yesterday while I was on the school run my dd left for college in a hurry and didn't close the front door properly nor did she close the gate. Our front door automatically locks from the outside so we always just close it and not lock it. If it doesn't click in properly the dog can open the door from the inside this has happened twice before now in 4 years, this is the only time it's happened while no one has been home.
So I get home and my dog is In the front garden and my front door wide open just as im going in my house my phone rings. It's work. " you need to go home straight away"
"I know" I said "I've just got home my door is wide open, how did you know"?
"Your naighbour phoned work"
I thought what a lovely naighbour, nice to know someone would do that rather than take the opportunity to rob me blind
So I knocked on a few doors because I wanted to thank them. No one knew anything.
So this morning my next door neighbour said " I know who phoned your work. It was Jane doe from the next street.
I spoke to Jane this morning who told me my dog was running in and out of the road causing cars to swerve and restricting her from walking past the house with her dogs
She said she had to barricade herself in the naighbours garden because my dog kept going to attack her. She said she was outside my house for 20 minutes shouting and screaming but no one came out. So she phoned my work but I wasn't in so she phoned her sister, her sisters husband is my window cleaner so knows my dog they managed to get him in the garden.
I explained what had happened and apologised but explained my dog was only protecting the house and was probably scared.
Anyway I go in work this morning to find she phoned work shouting and swearing at my colleague. My colleague is only young and still training and was pretty upset
She said my neighbour said " I don't know whether she's been robbed, but I'm going to kill that fucking dog and give her a piece of my mind"
So now I'm really annoyed 1 because she thought I had been robbed and never bothered to phone the police and 2 the way she spoke to my colleague it was nothing to do with her and certainly couldn't do anything about it and most definitely doesn't get paid enough to deal with kind of abuse.
So basically there was a dog in danger if she was so concerned about him going for people maybe the next person who walked past wouldn't have been able to run to another garden. He has never bit anyone though not ever but he obviously felt threatened and I do know he can appear aggressive and he been known to fight with other dogs in the past not often but if they go for him he will retaliate I imagine if a dogs owner felt threatened by a dog they would attack.
So should I go round and have words or just leave it?
Anything could have happened like she said someone could have broken in robbed me, or even worse they could have broken in while me and my daughter's was there and hurt us and my dog was trying to raise alarm.

Really? I think it's only because she did know you dog that she didn't call the police. Regardless of the ins and outs your dog was out of control. I certainly wouldn't brave a dog who's out of control to close a neighbours door. I'd ring them up and tell them to get down sharpish. I'd be pretty pissed that I'm having to try and control my dogs because someone else was careless.

You also get that if someone got injured or the police had to collect your dog no one would care that he was protecting the house? That's not a defence!!

I'm not blaming my neighbour. Of course it wasn't her fault my door was open and my dog was out. I just don't think ibu to expect a bit more community spirit.
I am going to go round though with my daughter so she can apologise too.
I'm going to suggest a doggy play date. Think he has some apologising to do too.
I am going to ask why she didn't think to phone the police when she clearly thought I'd been burgled.
As I said before we used to chat all the time but in the last 6 months or so she doesn't even say hello. Maybe something eles has pissed her off. I can't help thinking she would have been happy if I was burgled. That's just a feeling I get I've no evidence of that.
I just no if it was me I would at least tried to make sure everything was ok. Even phoned back work to ask if they had got hold of me

You're determined not to listen to any of these posts.
You're determined that your neighbour acted unreasonably.
Maybe you should balance the help she provided (getting help to catch your dog, calling your employer to alert you to your door being open) versus her perceived negligence in joy calling the police and her shouting at your colleague. On balance, I think she did You a favour so YWBU to go and have it out with her.
Apologise to your colleague that a personal issue had resulted in her getting an earful.
Then put it all behind you.

Your dog, your house, your daughter, your fault. The buck stops with you.

Let it drop.

I’d not phone the police in those circumstances no. And I doubt they would have capacity to react to such a call if anyone did.

Are you in the uk? Just wondering.

Your daughter was careless, so ultimately the blame for the incident rests with her.
Your neighbours sound a bit clueless, personally if it was me I would be looking at how I could lure the dog back into the garden, or house so it safely out of harms way and possibly phone you in work to explain, if I felt something more sinister was going on. I would not be wasting police time to report a neighbours dog running loose.

Of course no, why would the police care about your dog?*
Not about the dog. About the fact that she thought I'd been burgled!

I know if the police had got there before me bare in mind I was only gone for 15 minutes they would have seized him but euthanized him for barking at passers by is a bit much. He never went for anyone.
He was at the gate entrance barking. She felt scared of course she did. If she would have preceded to walk past her dogs would have attracted my dog because they was protecting their owner my dog would have thought back and would have lost definitely come of worse
Dogs get out sometimes it happens.
I see it all the time on social media lost and found dogs that have escaped yes it's careless but it happens doesn't mean the dog deserves to be put down or the owner to face criminal prosecution.
I would much prefer to pay for my dog back out of the pound than have my house left open to anyone and everyone or have him hurt .

. I 1would not be wasting police time to report a neighbours dog running loose.
As I said not really about the dog but she said to my colleague " her door is wide open, I don't know if she had been burgled or what"
I just couldn't have that thought enter my head and not do anything about it.
Anyway as I said I am going to go round. Hopefully resolve this peacefully. This lady walks past every day more than once, she is a customer her brother in law cleans my Windows last thing I want is fall out.
I've lived here for 4 years now and my dog has never got out before
I just can't let it lie that she was more angry with me because she thought I'd been burgled than concerned.
I only know it was her who called my works because she was ranting to my ndn rather than coming to see me.

Your neighbours sound a bit clueless, personally if it was me I would be looking at how I could lure the dog back into the garden, or house so it safely out of harms way
I don't really blame her not doing that. She had 2 big Dobermans with her that by the sounds of it was non too happy he was upsetting their owner plus she had no idea how my dog would react if she had gotten to close to the gate. By the sounds of it that's what is was doing. Stopping people approaching the house.

No I don’t think I would call the police unless I knew it had been. When we left the door open the neighbours shut it and then informed us - unless the burglar was still there waiting for you to return is fine and means no wasting of police time

YABU for repeatedly spelling it "naighbour".

I don't normally comment on spelling, but how annoying.

Also, your dog was loose and being aggressive. You are extremely lucky it wasn't killed or didn't bite someone.

You would absolutely BU to have a go at her. She was probably shouting out of fear. I'd apologise to your colleague on her behalf tbh.

Even if you think her dogs are stronger than yours she shouldn't have ever been put in that position in the first place.

Vulnerable and frightened dogs are very unpredictable and I imagine this would have been a very stressful situation for her. I expect she is now upset thinking about the damage that your dog could have done to hers. She bent over backwards (calling her sister and BIL as well as your employer) to ensure your dog was safe and that you were aware and could come and secure the property. I'd say that's community spirit. She could have left your dog outside to attack whoever was passing or be injured by a car, but she didn't. You should be a bit more grateful.

Tell her to call the police next time and not your place of work!

HTH.

Oh no. How bloody embarrassing! My phone kept changing it to "neighbour" which was annoying me I changed to "naighbours" and my phone must have locked it in because even when I write neighbours now it changes it. I can't spell any way. Relay way too much on auto correct.
I know my dog was loose and I'm very lucky he wasn't killed or harmed my point is that a naighbours I used to be friendly with thought I may have been burgled and did nothing about it. That's what's annoyed me.
Anyway I've just spoken to lady over the road who saw the whole thing but couldn't come out because she's just had a baby and she tells a different story. A story that included my dog being kicked. And never actually left the garden gate.
As I said what happened with the dog is not my beef. I know he shouldn't have been out but he was. It's the lack of neighbourhood spirit.

I just can't let it lie that she was more angry with me because she thought I'd been burgled than concerned

She wasn't angry because she thought you had been burgled at all. Sh didnt care about your house because her immediate problem was your dangerous dog!

Neighbour with dobermans could have secured her dogs and then sorted out yours. I personally wouldn’t stand screaming outside someone’s house for 20 mins to get their attention.

I understand what you mean about calling police if they genuinely believed you had been burgled, but often times people don’t want to involve themselves in case they look foolish and there’s an innocent explanation, which in your case there was.

I would just thank her for letting you know and just make sure daughter knows to shut door properly so you don’t have repeat of incident.

My dog isn't dangours. He was barking at her dogs and trying to stop her approaching the house which I think most dogs would in those circumstances.
Apparently according to my sources she did secure her dogs and then stood at my fence screaming and shouting. I've been told it wasn't 20 minutes either it was barely 10.
My dog only approached her when she tried to come in or close the gate.
Then her sister came and kicked my dog into the garden and closed the gate.

In my oppinon she must have known nobody was home. If over road could hear her then someone in my house would have defently heard her.
I understand she may have been scared but something just doesn't sit right. Call it a huntch I don't know. But I kept help thinking her reaction had more to do with the reason she doesn't talk to me anymore.
It's that line " I don't know whether she's been burgled or what but I'm going to kill that fucking dog"
That's why I want to do a doggy play date I want her know he isn't aggressive. Just a bit different from other dogs.
Her brother in law knows he isn't aggressive and he just barks. Granted he wasn't there at the time to explain that so she wouldn't have known.

I understand what you mean about calling police if they genuinely believed you had been burgled, but often times people don’t want to involve themselves in case they look foolish and there’s an innocent explanation, which in your case there was.

She could have even phoned work back to see if they managed to get hold of me.
I could have been lay dead in there for all she knew..

If she’d called the police and your dog was running outside without any supervision they’d have taken your dog away.

Goodness. Your dog was out causing mayhem and someone felt so threatened by him they were stuck in someone's garden for a long time and you want to confront them? And are angry with them? They could have called the dog warden. You need to make sure your dog doesn't escape again.

they’d have taken your dog away.
Yes and I would have had to pay a fee to retrieve him. It happens that's why we microchip
stuck in someone's garden for a long time and you want to confront them? And are angry with them?
Rtft apparently that never happened.
I was only got for 15 minutes. My daughter was home when I left. She couldn't have been there 20 minutes as she said.
My other naighbour said she didn't barricade herself in another garden she locked her dogs in the other garden.
I've already said I know my daughter was careless but even if i had let fire breathing dragons run riot if you genuinely believe some has been burgled it's not the right thing to not do anything about it.
People are getting 2 caught up over the dog. The lady across the way said she never left the garden i don't see why she would have any reason to lie. All I said to the lady across the road was " did you anything with my dog yesterday?"
I wasn't home and somebody rang my work but I don't know what happened"
She thought Jane and I was having a bit of a row

Nobody is getting “too caught up over the dog”. Your self confessed aggressive dog was not under control, and you’re wound up because your neighbours were pissed off about it. Your entitled attitude stinks. Keep your dog under control, make sure your DD leaves the house secure and wind your neck in having a pop at other people when it’s your household that is in the wrong, not anyone else’s!

You weren't burgled though. So good call not to phone police.

If you are having harsh words with anyone it should be with your daughter who was both reckless and irresponsible with your house, your belongings and your dog.

Beyond apologising, leave your neighbour alone.

Your DD is the only person who you should be having a go at here.

Jesus wept.

This woman called your work and you are asking if you should have a go at her?