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Child neglect

13 replies

Bingeslayer · 11/12/2017 19:49

Not really a wwyd about the neglect per say,as I have already reported my concerns to ss.
Background:neighbour I have known for 10 years has had her children removed 3 times and returned,3rd return was 3 months ago after 18 months,her youngest is in the same class as mine and they regularly play together.
Neglect includes the child running the roads and going in other peoples houses and not being checked up on for hours,was in mine a few days ago for over 3 hours before her mum came knocking asking was child here as she thought child was playing outside(3 hours in freezing temp at 5 years old) yesterday and today child has been here since breakfast time til 6pm and not checked on once or called home for meals.
My wwyd though is about nits,the poor child is absolutely riddled,has very thick long dar hair but you can visibly see them running across the hair can also see lots of scabs in the poor things parting,it must be so uncomfortable, the mum definitely knows the child has been infested for months,she told me to my face that she's fed up of denitting so not going to bother,the school class have been hit hard,every child I think have caught them now since September, my child twice also,the school have sent numerous letters home, had the nit nurse in the yard at home time to speak to parents etc,think they have also reported to ss.
After the child was sent home at 6 I got the nitty gritty out and checked my child and found 3 nits,so another fortnight of daily conditioner/comb torture for all the family.I know its not the child's fault and have always let them play together but I don't know how long I can go on with the de -nit routine if I keep letting this child in.
Wwyd? Keep letting child in or stop them playing together outside school(could still catch them in class though).

OP posts:
CheapSausagesAndSpam · 11/12/2017 20:22

You need to call social services OP.

blindmelons · 11/12/2017 20:25

I think she said she already has.

Bubblebubblepop · 11/12/2017 20:27

Yes it says right at the start she already has

Are the girl and your daughter friends? How would you daughter feel about not seeing her again?

pemberleypearl · 11/12/2017 20:27

Can't quite believe your wwyd is about letting the child in or stopping them pkating. You know this child is being neglected - do something about it! Call SS.

CheapSausagesAndSpam · 11/12/2017 20:27

Oh I see sorry!

OP when you're asking what to do about the child's nits, is it that you're thinking of treating this little girl?

She seems to spend a lot of time with you.

I would...I'd say let's play hairdressers and just do my own child and her.

You're providing her with a lot of support by the way which is lovely.

Bubblebubblepop · 11/12/2017 20:28

This confirms my theory that MN'ees only have 4 bits of advice :

Cancel the cheque
LTB
Call the police
Call SS or the NSPCC

Seems to work for every thread! Grin

blindmelons · 11/12/2017 20:30

I used to let a girl play at ours for hours as I knew her Home life was hard as her parents were alcoholics, she never wanted to leave!
I think I'd treat her hair for her if you feel that you could. Not your responsibility but just saying your daughter can't play with her just means she has even more of a shit time.

anothernetter · 11/12/2017 20:32

Agree with the poster above you need to call SS. Poor child Sad

Mumoftwoyoungkids · 11/12/2017 20:33

I agree that social services need to be called.

Re: what to do for the best for your child? If the kids like each other then they will still play at playtime so she could quite easily catch the nits then. (Assuming it is long) could you put your dd’s hair in a bun? My dd is a trampolinist and they all wear buns for trampolining (to avoid losing marks for their hair flying out of the boundaries - I know!) and she now likes a bun for all occasions. So far we seem to have avoided nits even when it seemed that every girl in the class had them.

Bubblebubblepop · 11/12/2017 20:37

Read the thread people

Schlimbesserung · 11/12/2017 20:52

I wouldn't feel comfortable treating someone else's kids without asking first, but if you did ask it doesn't sound like the mother would refuse. So I'd go ahead (after asking I mean) and treat her child at the same time as your own, even if your own don't really need doing. As the previous poster said, you can easily make a game out of it.
Letting her continue to play at your house also means that she has somewhere safe and warm to be.

Malga · 12/12/2017 15:54

I cover my DD's hair in hairspray or hair oil or hair cream and put it up, seems to help stop nits from taking hold. You could try that?

OlennasWimple · 12/12/2017 15:58

I would say to the mum that you need to do your DD's hair, would she like you to do her DD's at the same time? (And hope that she says yes)

And I would tell school that is what has happened - school is presumably working closely with SS with this poor mite

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