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Emotional abuse

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Loveache · 29/11/2017 12:00

So going through a relationship split whilst living together. Same-sex couple and it's her place. So me who will have to move. This is impossible at the moment (and we initially agreed no kick-out) because I don't have much money and even if I had, we live in a very expensive city which is in a rental crisis and places are hard to come by and extortionate. I looked this morning and there was a shared room with bunk beds at the top of my price range. It's pretty tough.
Anyway. My now ex is a problem drinker which only became apparent to me after moving in together. On drink, she can be very abusive (not physically). It's getting a lot worse and more regular. Last night she had two bottles of wine and was extraordinarily cruel about me, my life, our relationship etc. She also said things that aren't true or didn't happen which is headmelting.
I'm by no means a crybaby but I did get upset. She mocked me, playing an imaginary violin, saying I was 'playing the victim' and to 'stop being such a baby'. This was all slurred because of the drink too. Being brought down by someone I once had most trust in is very hard. She won't accept she has a drink problem. I can't take this any more but I literally don't have anywhere to go. I can't even think clearly today. Advice is welcome.

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Loveache · 29/11/2017 12:39

Anyone?

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PostcodeJack · 29/11/2017 19:05

If there is one then move into the spare room until you can move. Or sleep on the sofa. Establish that you're living separate lives.

Her drinking is her problem, not yours. Disengage.

Can you stay with any friends or family until you find somewhere new?

The fact that she's probably hurting too could be why she's being so awful but it does not excuse it.

Just remember that you will get through this, no matter how bad it feels at the moment x

Rainbowmother · 23/12/2017 00:32

What happened loveache are you still living there?

hollowtree · 23/12/2017 00:36

Sounds awful OP I'm sorry. I think you need to get out ASAP

laudanum · 23/12/2017 00:39

Can you consider moving to an area that is less pricy, or do you need to stay in your current area for work?

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