So unhappy

[Skymum16]

Just need somewhere to have a rant so....sorry!
Me and my OH moved from a city that he loved, to be near my parents for childcare support (LO is nearly 2) - mutual decision but instigated by me. Since we moved he has been absolutely miserable and our relationship is pretty rubbish now. He sleeps all the time or just watches TV, doesn’t seem to want to spend time with us and I just feel so unhappy now. Sex life is non-existent! He works late but sometimes doesn’t come home until 2am and I don’t know where he goes. Plus I’m working full time and doing long shifts.
I can’t really picture spending the rest of my life with him now, I would just feel so terrible that he moved for us just to be dumped. What do I do? ☹️ I used to love him so much and now I just feel like I can do so much better. We hardly even talk now so I don’t know what’s going on in his head.
Rant over!

Didn't want to read and run. He sounds depressed. I'm not sure you can force him to talk but let him know you're there for him. We moved to London from the East Midlands and at first I found it hard but then I had a baby and made friends. We then moved to the West Midlands to be nearer family. Again it was hard at first then we made friends and started to get out and about. He will be ok after a bit but keep letting him know you're ready to listen. Sorry it does sound hard.

I’ve tried, he just doesn’t tell me anything and says that nothing I do helps. Feel like I’d be better off single but it’s so hard when there’s kids involved

Also it’s been 7 months since we moved and it’s just got progressively worse.....

The only way to sort it is to talk to each other, even if it's awkward to make that first move. Can you write him a letter explaining exactly how you feel if you feel he won't listen properly if you talk face to face?
How would you feel if he wants to end the relationship? Maybe he's depressed and needs you to make the first move when it comes to sex and talking together. Could you do something really thoughtful for him?
As for him staying out until 2am you need to get to the bottom of that first before anything else happens. It could be completely harmless and he's just going to meet a friend, going for a drive to clear his head or exercising or something, but you need to be 100% certain he isn't getting up to anything dodgy like having an affair or going somewhere to get stoned.
If you take all the above steps and he's still showing no interest then you might have to accept that the relationship is over and you'd both be happier apart

If he is out til stupid o 'clock then he needs to be explaining where he goes.

There is such a thing a depression or depression episodes triggered by moving. So much so that DH plans a visit to his GP before any future relocations (even if we should go to his hometown), as he does not want to go through this again if he can help it.

Yeah I agree about the 2am thing. You need to know what he's doing.