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Dithering about a job - please help me sort my thoughts out..

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CatWizard · 25/11/2017 23:42

.. and tell me wether I need a kick up the arse.

A job has come up within the company I work for and I’m dithering about wether to go for it or not.
If I go for it I’ll almost definitely get it and there’s a lot of good reasons to go for it so I feel like it should be a no brainer but I keep getting caught up on the downsides to it.

The pros are:

  • Will get to spend more time with kids as more predictable working hours and no more working away from home for most of the week.
  • Should be easier and less stressful. The team I’m on at the moment is ridiculously overstretched.
  • I already know and get on well with the main people I’ll be working with.

However:

  • It’s a lower pay grade than my current role
  • I’ll be moving out of a very small, close knit team I’ve been part of for my entire working life

The pay isn’t a massive issue as it’s still going to be an ok amount and dh is a high earner so we’ll still be pretty comfortable.

It also means moving to a quite remote location which has it’s positive and negative points as well - it’s a lovely community and it could be a really idyllic place for the kids to grow up but the winters are awful, we’ll be moving even further away from what family we have in this country and it’s a 3 hour journey, mostly by ferry, to the nearest town.

We’d also love to have more kids and the extra stability mean’s this might actually be doable which would be amazing.

I’ve been going round in circles thinking about it and I can’t decide whether it’s worth it.
Would you go for it?

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CatWizard · 25/11/2017 23:57

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blueshoes · 26/11/2017 00:56

I am seriously missing the point but your husband is a high earner yet he can move out to a remote location 3 hours to the nearest town? Does he work remotely? I assume you will still have his income after the move.

Wh0KnowsWhereTheTimeG0es · 26/11/2017 08:49

The location would put me off. How is your DH going to work? Even if he works from home is the broadband reliable in such a remote location? Three hours from the nearest town with a growing family sounds quite daunting to me.

wowbutter · 26/11/2017 08:51

I would totally do it. But, I'm used to living in the arse end of beyond.
The children may struggle being so isolated.

CatWizard · 26/11/2017 10:27

Yes sorry husband does work from home.
He does need to work away from home occasionally for a few days or a week at a time but we always know quite far in advance so arranging leave isn’t a problem.

From when I’ve been there the broadband seems to be fairly reliable .
One of the area manager lives there and does a lot of his work from home so I’ll check with him.

Our youngest is 2 so I’m not really worried about moving him but the eldest is 7 and I’m worried about how she’ll cope. I think she’ll be really excited about the location but school will be very different to what she’s used to.

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CatWizard · 26/11/2017 11:06

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blueshoes · 26/11/2017 21:56

Your husband only works from home occasionally. How does he get to work on the days WOH f you are 3 hours from the nearest town. What does his commute look like?

I think overall it is a bad idea which is not outweighed by the pros. Assuming your husband can make it work for him, the children won't thank you when they are older and want the freedom to move around and meet their friends. I would be concerned that their outlook would be narrowed. Guess they will rely on social media more.

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