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I was attacked by another woman this morning

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sweetmama11 · 24/10/2017 11:11

I'm not sure if this is the right place for this, but let me know what you guys think. I was attacked by another woman this morning when I was out walking my dogs.

Here's what happened:

A few weeks ago when I was walking my dogs, I met an old man who had three dogs. One was on the lead and the two other ones, small terrier type dogs I think, were off lead and one tried to attack my dog. I shouted at it and managed to get my dogs away. I said to the man that he had a vicious dog and it should be on the lead. He ignored me and carried on.

Since this event I've seen the same man walking his dogs a few times, with his wife I believe, and I've always tried to avoid them. Today however, they were all walking behind me. At one point his dog came over to mine (the vicious one) and we all got into an argument. His wife started shouting at me, and saying that I had apparently threatened her husband. I said back that her dogs were vicious and should be controlled. I also said that her dog had repeatedly tried to attack mine for no reason. Again, her dog comes up to mine, and starts to bite at her throat, so I shout at her dog, and then her husband comes over and starts grabbing me. I managed to push him off but then she goes mental. She starts grabbing my hair and telling me to keep away from her (?!) She really grabs my hair until I'm in a kind of headlock, and then she shoves my glasses off my face. I tell her to get off and then her husband manages to pull her off me. I tell her that I'm going to report her and she keeps telling me that she's going to report ME.

I'm not really sure what to do now. I'm shaken and embarrassed more than anything. I did not expect this old woman (50s/60s maybe) to attack me. She hasn't hurt me, although she pull some of my hair out. I don't have any other marks or bruises. I'm just shocked. Should I report her? I don't know her name or where she lives. I feel like I don't have enough evidence. She would probably just get a caution anyway. I'm not really sure what I should do next.

The worst thing about having a dog is having to deal with other people's dogs and their owners. What a psycho.

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HooraySunshine · 24/10/2017 11:54

I would report both of them and their vicious dog(s) ASAP.

He grabbed you first? Then she attacked? And their dog has attacked yours twice now? Report it all.

They obviously live in the area if you've seen them twice in the same park. Go back to the park tomorrow, same time, take your phone/camera, leave your dog at home and photograph them if possible to show the police what they look like, or ask if the police can go with you (fat chance, but never hurts to ask Grin ). There might be CCTV somewhere that caught it all?

I stopped walking my dog because of situations like this. He now gets his exercise elsewhere Grin

Good luck!! Flowers

DonkeyOil · 24/10/2017 11:55

I do think you should report this shocking assault, but

I did not expect this old woman (50s/60s maybe) to attack me.

!!! Really? Stereotyping much? Of course, once you reach 50 you're barely able to shuffle around without a walking stick. I forgot Grin

Chocolatear · 24/10/2017 11:56

I'm 55 and I am not old.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 24/10/2017 11:58

Ring the police now. If you have any obvious injuries e.g. bruising, scratches, a patch where hair has been pulled out, then it might be worth going to the police station in person.

As MrsGame helpfully pointed out in her (idiotic) post - it is your word against theirs, BUT it is a record of the assault which could be important if these two twonks escalate or repeat their behaviour.

As others have said - you may not be their first or last victim, and the more evidence that is available the easier it will be to do something about them.

Get yourself calmed a little, have a cup of tea, and then take action.

(From a 64 year old multiple dog owner who doesn't hit people)

SleepFreeZone · 24/10/2017 12:00

If you don't report her she might try and get in first and report you!

Original poster
sweetmama11 · 24/10/2017 12:02

Didn't meant to cause offence using the word "old" !! I just meant that the couple were a lot older than me (I'm in my 20s) and you really don't expect to get attacked my someone of that age. I don't know, someone younger maybe....I never thought I'd be attacked at all.

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Viserion · 24/10/2017 12:03

I read the OP and wondered how many posts in it would get before people started shouting about ageism. The OP is clearly in shock and distressed about being assaulted. If she is a young (is that allowed?) woman in her 20s, someone in their 50s/60s probably does seem old by comparison. She is certainly 'older'. And I say that as a woman not far off her 50s.

Try to focus on the bigger picture instead of nitpicking over a choice of word.

Flowers sweetmama. Absolutely you should report it. It sounds like they walk in the same place quite regularly, so with your description of them and their dogs, it should be quite easy for them to be tracked down.

chirpyburbycheapsheep · 24/10/2017 12:11

Sorry this happened to you Flowers

Also it is not helpful to attack other posters, calling their posts idiotic. That poster had a valid experience of reporting an assault and nothing being done. Her experience informed her, rightly or wrongly, that it wasn't worth the upset. Her post might have prepared the OP for the possibility that no further action might be taken which she clearly found distressing.

Having said this, I would report because as others have said they may have a track record already. Good luck

chirpyburbycheapsheep · 24/10/2017 12:11

That last bit was directed at other posters not you OP...

SchadenfreudePersonified · 24/10/2017 12:13

Didn't meant to cause offence using the word "old" !!

I'm not offended - I meant to put a Grin at the end of my pst, but I lost it twice (it was much longer initially) so quit while I was ahead.

You know - had you been pregnant you could have miscarried. This assault may not have left you physically badly damaged, but it could have done, and will certainly affect your confidence for a while.

Report them.

Someoneasdumbasthis · 24/10/2017 12:16

report! they may have a record or have been reported by others so it wouldn't necessarily be your word against theirs. Your report will also be filled so if they do it to someone else, your report will help them.

HooraySunshine · 24/10/2017 12:17

I've just had a thought, a lot of the parks I used to walk my dog in had a sign that said something like 'all dogs must be on a lead' so if their dog wasn't on a lead (twice!) then that could be an offence in itself? (Not sure what the 'penalty' is for not obeying the sign though? Confused )

endehors · 24/10/2017 12:18

Yes, of course report them both. The husband grabbed at you too! That's just horrendous, hope you're ok.

HopefulHamster · 24/10/2017 12:18

report them. Otherwise they could escalate when they inevitably see you again.

Skittlesandbeer · 24/10/2017 12:20

I think I’d be investing in some kind of recording device to clip onto the leash when walking your dog from now on...pooch cam perhaps? And if you see them first, a bit of strategic surveillance to find out where they live?

What a crazy couple... you never know what’s bubbling under people’s surface lives, do you?

And yes, on the age thing I’ll add a bit of maths. Given the average life expectancy for women is now a smidge below 83 years (ie half live longer than that), then 50 is barely middle-age!

MsGameandWatching · 24/10/2017 12:23

Also it is not helpful to attack other posters, calling their posts idiotic. That poster had a valid experience of reporting an assault and nothing being done. Her experience informed her, rightly or wrongly, that it wasn't worth the upset. Her post might have prepared the OP for the possibility that no further action might be taken which she clearly found distressing.

Thank you so much chirpy. You said that far better than I could have. I didn’t tell OP not to report just in my experience in a similar situation, very little was done and the whole experience was horrendous, I was arrested and questioned when I had never so much as raised my hand. A friend of mine who worked in a bar had a glass smashed over his head when he tried to restrain an aggressive customer. He too was arrested and there was an actual court case, which consumed his life and finances for months. He was found not guilty but he was a shadow of himself while it was going on. But I reiterate that’s just my experience so I wouldn’t bother to report it. That said, there’s a lot of sense in saying they might already be known to police.

MsGameandWatching · 24/10/2017 12:24

I can’t understand why people think it’s ok to refer to other people as idiots and idiotic on such as thread as this. I’d be embarrassed to do so.

seven201 · 24/10/2017 12:25

Definitely report via 101 or online. She’s not old though!

millifiori · 24/10/2017 12:25

Definitely call the police and have the assault properly logged. That's terrifying. And for all you know, they have previous. Can you change your route or walk with a 7ft, 20 stone male friend?

someoneelsesstory · 24/10/2017 12:28

You have been assaulted. You must report this. Were there any witnesses?

Bear in mind that if you do not report and they do it will appear that you have something to hide. If the police identify and speak to them they will doubtless lie. But the police are good at spotting that. And it will act as a deterrent. Next time you see them take a photo - from a distance.

GerrytheBerry · 24/10/2017 13:02

Definitely definitely report ASAP! Also there may well be cctv in the area.
Hope your ok! Bloody crazy ass loons they sound like.

GerrytheBerry · 24/10/2017 13:06

Lol at the offended 'oldies'
I totally agree, my dh is 50 and quite capable of really battering someone if the need took him!
I wouldn't think of someone in their 70s as 'old' either tbf.

schoolgaterebel · 24/10/2017 13:13

One message back would’ve put an end to it all (would’ve taken 5 seconds) instead OP came on here and started a whole thread about it.

Yes this woman is weird and 14 messages in 24 hours is just wrong, she’s obviously very distraught and troubled.

‘You have the wrong person, we went on 4 dates and never slept together’

Is the least OP could’ve done.

schoolgaterebel · 24/10/2017 13:14

POSTED ON WRONG THREAD ENTIRELY

Please ignore me....as you were

SonicBoomBoom · 24/10/2017 13:17

Report it to the police. You'll no doubt see her/them again whilst walking your dog

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