Apology needed?

[sophiesmother]

So a friend invited three families (we are one of them) to dinner by a group text sent on a Friday for a Sunday dinner. He heard from two families, but not the third (me). On Sunday about two hours before dinner, he texted the group again asking if we were coming to dinner. No response. Once at dinner, he texted my daughter directly to find out where we were. When she told him we weren't included on the group text and have no idea what he's talking about, we never heard a thing back. I'm told from others that were there that he realized he forgot to include us on the invitation, but 5 days later we have received no apology or anything. I reached out to say that since I always respond to his texts within the hour that I would have never blown off an invitation. Still nothing. The text from me was read. What kind of person doesn't apologize for that? I'm wasn't mad as it was an honest mistake but to not apologize just seems rude AF. Opinions?

Or maybe he’s just been busy and hasn’t had chance to reply yet?

This cannot be real. Its not just entitled, like you were entitled to be at the dinner, but now it’s escalating something irrelevant into some sort of major drama.

I’ve read some stuff on here but this is batshit. I call BS.

Or maybe he’s just been busy and hasn’t had chance to reply yet?

That's not typical of him and the text was read. It's been a week and the other people there keep asking if he's gotten in touch with me. Like I said, I wasn't mad at all. Stuff happens. No biggie, but I felt like him not writing back was weird. Like I had done something wrong. I don't feel entitled at all. But I do think he's being rude. As do the two other families there. It doesn't add up to me at all. I never get roped into stuff like this as I avoid anything toxic. But hey, that's me. I put my friends first and go out of my way to never make things weird. If I'd meant to include someone and forgot, id just say sorry. It's no biggie. For some reason the others there are assuming maybe he's mad or maybe embarrassed ... I don't know. Could be busy, but I doubt it. Anyway, thanks for the reality check. Friendship weirdness is not my strong suit. I'm letting this one go. I've done my part. Thanks all

I think you’re being completely over the top. Stop being silly

YOu are making this into something and it really is nothing.

I think you’re being completely over the top. Stop being silly

Hopefully it is nothing. I just set pretty high standards for myself when it comes to my friends. I text people back within hours, call to check in, remember birthdays, reply to emails and calls ... Maybe that's old school manners. But I teach my daughter to do the same thing. It goes a long way in showing people you care. I know that things are much more casual with the younger crowds and that manners are seriously lacking. But I still practice good etiquette. Maybe that shows my age If someone reaches out to me, they are definitely entitled to a response.

It sounds like you love drama.

It blows your mind that he hasn’t apologised? Seriously??!! Get a grip!

For someone who claims not to like drama...

But I still practice good etiquette

It’s appalling etiquette to get mad over this, be on line calling him rude, and to be bitching to your other friends about him.

I’m genuinely unsure why you keep saying you’re one thing then behaving like another. Examples.. I don’t like drama, but you are creating a major drama over nothing, you go out of your way to not make things weird whilst behaving weird AF, you put your friends first whilst bad mouthing this guy to all and sundry, and you say you’re not entitled whilst acting like the very definition of entitled.

It’s honestly very strange. Do let it go because you must be causing huge discomfort in your social circle.

maybe this is a daft idea, but he thinks he's sent you at least one text that hasn't arrived, isn't it possible that his phone has somehow garbled your number and that he's sent replies to a random person who has;t bothered to say it's a wrong number? I'd try speaking to him on the phone or in person before giving up.....

No apology needed, you are over reacting

But I still practice good etiquette.

Perhaps you are over doing it, my DM is always excessively polite and over concerned about 'etiquette' - I get a formal thank you letter for the smallest of gifts/cup of coffee at a cafe - even a thank you for a thank you note . She worries horrendously about not returning invitations (she is 85 - who would expect an 85 year old to host a return dinner party - it can get a little weary being so thoroughly 'proper' about etiquette.