Cannot think straight

[Beaudog]

I had a row with my OH 2 weeks ago, based on his drug taking. Within 24 hrs he'd decided to finish renovating our house, sell it and move on - all without discussion. I have tried to talk to him but all he wants to discuss is 'house stuff' and our finances. On top of this, I have just started a new job, which I absolutely hate, I'm starting a part time Uni course next week and my DD goes to Uni next weekend. At 45 I feel like a massive failure and everything is just getting on top of me.He's decided that he will work on the house, I will continue to go to work to support him ( as he's not earning - he's self employed) and pay all of the bills. I feel like I'm currently bringing in £3k a month to sleep in my stepdaughters boxroom :( Any advice ?

Stop supporting him immediately, for a start? Move back into your bedroom, pay nothing for him.
Who owns the house?

Pay the bills*, but don't pay for HIS things
(By his I mean any debts contracts things in his name) but your own food. Keep a lock on your cupboard and fridge if needed (and if you're feeling generous buy him a cheap fridge and corner off a cupboard for his use).

• by bills I mean anything in both of your names/mortgages etc as not paying that has huge consequences. But do no more than that! TOUGHEN UP! You can do this Also, if he's unemployed I presume you pay for his drugs? Tell him he can get to fuck...