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DD 1st Birthday, DS & Parents not talking

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JoySaidThat · 05/09/2017 15:52

My DD is turning 1 & I've booked & planned a party for her in a local church hall. Our friends & family with & without kids are invited as we want it to be a nice get together rather than just a kids only type thing.

For private reasons my DS & parents are currently not talking.

I am very close with my DS who has 3 kids & expected them to attend, until she dropped the bombshell that if my parents are going to be there she can't come. I have maintained all along that I refuse to get involved in their situation but now feel forced to pick between them. I want them to all be there as my in laws will be as will my DHs extended family. It will be obvious to everyone that somethings not right if my DS or parents are not there, not to mention it will really upset me not to have them there for what I percieve as a really special event for my DD. I'm really annoyed at them all for not putting their differences aside to be there for my DD. What do I do? Part of me just wants to cancel the whole thing but why should my DD miss out?!

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brassbrass · 05/09/2017 17:13

it's pretty crap for you but your DD won't remember so try and give her a lovely party. Enjoy it for yourselves and the people who will be there with you.

If your DS and parents can't be grown up enough to put aside their issues then sod them. In a church hall it's pretty easy to avoid each other and mingle with other people.

We've had to do similar at wedding/birthday and it's doable. Be civilised but distant. Talk to other peole and avoid the people you want to avoid, Managed to have a nice time too!

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