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Advice needed on how to report indencent images found on someone I knows laptop

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Smeags11 · 22/08/2017 19:40

So about 10 years ago (I would have been about 14) my friend was going out with an older boy (18), at the time I never seen any problem with him being older etc but found it strange that he was so willing to date a 14 year old at that time, the relationship was very toxic and he was, what I can now see as, very abusive and controlling. We would go to his house a lot and they would disapear to his bedroom while me and my other friend would play about on his laptop. One night while we were playing about on the laptop I ended up in the recycle bin and found what I can only describe as a child porn video, I never opened it but the title itself indicated that it was an indecent video involving a 6 year old girl, I was so distressed that I immeditiatley closed the laptop and went home. I never told anyone about this - I don't really know why, I was so young and quite frankly I was frightened of what would happen if I did. A few years later I was speaking with someone who used to be friends with this boy and they had told me that they found similar images on his laptop and that they had actually confronted him and he had replied to them and said that it was downloaded accidentally (I'm not really sure if this could even happen as I'm pretty sure these sort of videos are not that easy to stumble upon) again I never done anything about it which I am so angry at myself for but I just didn't know how to go about it. This guy is extremely manipulative and he befriended me, at the time I felt like it was because he was dating my friend and wanted us to get along but now I look back and it literally sends chills down me spine to think about all the nights he would call me and spend hours on the phone etc. I also went to school with his cousin and I remember there was a time she had told me that her little brother had accused this guy of trying to touch him inappropriately while he was in the bath but she said that they were dealing with it as a family and I never heard anything about it again. Recently I haven't been able to get this out my head, I recently became a mother and I am so distressed at the thought of anyone hurting a child or viewing these images of children being hurt it honestly makes me sick to my stomach. I also found out recently that he has become a dad and that his girlfriend is pregnant again and I really just feel that I need to do something, I'm really struggling with the guilt that if I don't do something he could abuse these kids. I have no doubt that this guy is a pedophile, I can't even drive passed his house without feeling sick he is just awful!! I just don't know how I would go about reporting this? And I'm also worried that he would find out it was me or even worse that the police do investigate but that there's not enough evidence and he is free to do what he pleases with these children!! I'm sorry for the rambling I'm just very distressed and I know I couldn't live with myself if it was to come out years down the line that he had hurt other children.

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MINEareCRAFTy · 23/08/2017 10:19

I'm sorry this happened to you. Can you phone the police and get some advice? I do think it needs to be discussed with them, not least because you need to be able to feel like you did the right thing. It's for them to then deal with, it's not for you to decide what should happen next or risk assess. Take care Flowers

Fluffyears · 01/09/2017 20:39

Try NSPCC or childline I'm sure they could give you advice.

dysongirl · 14/09/2017 17:50

Maybe report him to police
If their is all these rumours flying around about him for years
Good luck x

hungrytillater · 14/09/2017 17:55

I agree that basically need to tell the police what you have said here. It is then in their hands, but you've done your bit. Don't beat yourself us for not telling anyone at the time, you were just a child.

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