a wedding choice?

[junglebookisthebest]

Just want to get married - largely for legal aspects but not denying that I quite like the idea...
Would you go for the cheap standard ceremony for £50 - no guests but could make it memorable by it being on my birthday.
Or an enhanced ceremony for £120, our daughters (will be 5 and 2) could attend but there are no time slots on my birthday so it would just be a random day.

Have your kids there and don't ruin your future birthdays by having to do anniversary stuff for future DH.

Why couldn't your daughters come to the cheap standard ceremony?

I would care far more about having my children there than the date.

I'd go for the option where your kids can attend.

only 2 guests to be witnesses allowed for a standard ceremony - can't be children...
i think you are right about them needing to be there...
how do you pick a date? I thought birthday would be nice as then he could never forget!

My mum got married on her birthday but regretted it further down the line. Her birthday and wedding anniversary were forever lumped as one so she never properly celebrated them both.
You say a ceremony with your children will be on a "random" day - but that day will forever after be your wedding anniversary.

It will be memorable whethervits you birthday or not. It's your wedding.

I would positively choose to avoid my birthday. Don't want to waste an opportunity for a little meal out / celebration further down the line.

I would also want people to celebrate with me and would value that over a particular day / date - although it seems you don't want that, so I can't really advise on that bit.

Thanks all - carrotcupcake thats good to know your mums experience.
So will go with an enhanced ceremony - on a date which is not my birthday...
Now to pick a date... Probably would have been easier if just us at the cheaper ceremony - but as we can have guests with the enhanced ceremony, do we have them - and if we do - how accommodating should we be to do a date that suits them... Arghhh - this is why we are not married at the moment!

I think if the idea of having guests adds stress then just go and do a cheap wedding on a random day. I got married with no guests and it was really great.

Take a late time and meet family at a chosen restaurant for a meal -

Keep it free and easy

As dh is a farmer he chose a date. Well a time that things were least busy. I always wanted autumn as I love the colours of the trees and such.
He thought he would go for his parents anniversary but date did not suit either photographer and other so we ended up getting married 2 days before my birthday.
Either way enjoy and I hope you have a lovely day