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Neighbour threatened me

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Rk123 · 14/08/2017 10:03

So I live in a house converted in to 2 flats. I live above, my neighbour downstairs does not work ever since I've known her, I've always been at university or working but not in as much as her. Now I have a ds and on maternity so I am in more often.

Ever since I've lived here she complains about anything. She doesn't mind making noise lets say slamming doors 2/3am in the morning, breaking furniture, shouting. I believe she suffers with MS. Even though I am on maternity I stay round my parents for 4 days of the week and stay here for 3 days. What else does she want I do the running around for her and she still isn't happy.

Today she complained about the TV and my baby crying. What can I possibly do!!!! She threatened me that the next time she knocks the door my partner would need to rip her off me.

I don't know what I've done to deserve this it is not safe for my child. I aint saying anything just for the sake of peace. I know she may suffer from depression thats why she would get away with it. This is just eating me away.

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aginghippy · 14/08/2017 10:15

I would contact the police.

'Next time she knocks the door my partner would need to rip her off me' is a threat of physical violence. You fear for your safety and that of your child. It's a police matter.

I have experience of a nightmare neighbour. It's crap when you feel on edge all the time in your own home. Going to the police didn't turn my neighbour into a nice person, but it made me feel like I was taking back control.

rascallyrascal · 14/08/2017 10:24

Call 101 and report her. She has threatened you. It's unacceptable, depression or not. Just be careful and don't open the door to her in future. Xxx

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Rk123 · 14/08/2017 10:28

I know it is good to report it but I just go to thinking she would do much worse noise in her house.

Currently I am looking for private housing, I reported her to the housing association but they don't care as long as they have there rent!!!

I feel like this makes me look weak and shes walking over me, my partner is witnessing this and tells me he hates the way I am. I'm just looking at it in a different way his out all day it's me and my ds. Me and my neighbour use the same door she can just come out and create an atmosphere.

I just want this done and over. I can't bring a kid up in this house with her downstairs.

Just as I'm writing this she kicked her dog in to the garden. I feel horrible witnessing this.

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KatharinaRosalie · 14/08/2017 10:30

'Oh dear, aren't the walls thin in those buildings! Here is the number for Council's Noise Team. Next time you hear noise, you should give them a call so they can come and investigate and make proposals what to do about it'.

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Rk123 · 14/08/2017 10:31

I've tried not opening the door. My door bell is very loud, it makes me jump she doesn't stop ringing it.

I feel like there is no way out other then leaving the house.

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aginghippy · 14/08/2017 11:46

When you report it to the police, you can also tell them you are worried she will retaliate by against you making more noise in order to disturb you and your family. They will be able to take that into account when responding.

In your op, you say 'I aint saying anything just for the sake of peace,' but the situation sounds anything but peaceful. Report to the police and continue reporting if she escalates things.

Siwdmae · 19/08/2017 22:44

Take the batteries our of your doorbell. Don't answer the door to her and if she's trying to batter it down, call 999.

Phone the police and ask them to speak to her.

dudsville · 19/08/2017 22:47

That sounds like an awful situation. Can you change your bell in the meantime?

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Rk123 · 19/08/2017 23:59

The door bell is electrical. I geniunely don't think it is going to change anything she would be calling the housing association to get me evicted and make up all sorts of things. I am not a bad tenant I don't cause any harm, I've never had any family/friends round just for the sake of peace, she has insulted me in front of my guests once also a delivery driver and that was it I never had anyone round apart from that day when she insulted me I was so embarrased (I've been living here for 9 years) I did go to the police they said I need to go to the neighbourhood team. That's when I lost all my hope. I am just not happy in my home and this is affecting my entire relationship with my DH. I am now looking for private housing, yes it isn't the best option when I actully move the first thing I would check is my neighbour I just don't care about the house, as long as my family are happy and we have a roof over our head. This has gone way tooo far I have no more patience my DS doesn't even have a routine because I am running away from my own house for 4 days! This is ruining my entire life

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ImaLannister · 20/08/2017 00:14

Sounds awful Op.
I think going to the Police about it will make it even worse, as the police probably wouldn't do anything at the very least they would maybe speak to her, which would be a waste of time, and this will make her have it in for you even more I think. Can you start to gather evidence maybe? Secret CCTV at your door, whatever, I know it sounds ridiculous as it's your home. No one wants CCTV etc but at least you would then have proof and can start to build up a case to report her to whoever you need to report her to to get her kicked out.
She sounds very intimidating, and knows that she intimidates you. Can you try and be more outspoken with her, and try to maybe make her feel how she makes you feel?

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Rk123 · 20/08/2017 00:37

I really appreciate all the advise. Me putting a cctv would not be a good idea it would cause more harm because our doors are right beside eachother she would make sure it comes down the minute it goes up.

Me doing a report is just going to waste more time, it would take a month or two and then for the housing to investigate and interview. Even if she gets evicted she would always know where I am and come back for me. I am not scared from her I couldn't care less, I only worry for the safety of my baby hence the reason why I have decided to move after having my baby and put up with it for 9 years. I really don't think I have the energy and mind to actully put up with it.

I know for a fact when I am gone she is really going to appreciate the person I am. I have always been respectful, never loud, or caused any problems. I doubt anyone would take the crap she does! I have been more patient then I could have imagined.

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