Holiday..

[Pombliboo123]

Right. I could easily ramble on for an she but I'll try and keep it brief.

DO wants us to go on a big and expensive holiday next year with his mum, her husband, his brother and his girlfriend, his nephew and his step brother.

I do not want to go. Loads of reasons which I can list if anyone thinks it's needed.

DP won't drop it. I've told him in not going.

He told his family I'm not going because I can't afford it and now they've offered to pay for me and I can't think how to say thanks but no thanks.

I'm also (probably unreasonably) annoyed that DP will be going on to a dream location for 2 weeks and I'll be stuck at home.

So...

DO I just suck it up and go

Not go, piss off DPs family in the process and seeth that DP is on the holiday of a lifetime whilst I'm at home. Alone.

Tell DP neither of us are going the end

*age, not she

Whats the main reason you are not going?

Honestly, I'm not a very social person and the thought of spending two whole weeks with DPs family makes me want to drive off a cliff.

I recently went on a weekend away with the females of his family and after a day and a half I was cracking up.

You can't tell him not to go on holiday with his family.

You could go, make the most of the location & get out and about and do your own thing.

Or if you think even that would be too much then strange your own holiday somewhere else on your own or with friends of stay at home.

But unless there's some massive back story to this, you can't stop him from going on holiday with his family. If DP tried to do that to me, I would go off on holiday and end the relationship before going.

*arrange not strange

Is it a hotel, villa, apartments?

Surely there won't be an expectation you'll spend ALL the time together? Or are they one of those families?

Either your DP accepts your stance, and it's not like it's at short notice, or you need to seriously consider your future with him.

They are one of "those" families....

They tried to invite themselves on our cheapy holiday this year because "won't it be nice all of us together". Erm no. Plus regularly texts to see what we are doing and then just end up coming along for our date night or whatever.

Whilst we probably won't be expected to be with them the whole time... I strongly suspect that we would end up with the 9 year old nephew a lot. And don't get me wrong he's a great kid but... I don't have children for a reason. One of them being so I don't have to holiday with them!

Aside from everything else if we do go I can just about afford it but the next 10months will be very very tight for me and it doesn't seem worth it for a holiday that I wont be looking forward to it.

I did say that I might go to NYC myself as I've always wanted to go and like my own company but DP said I wasn't alloeed because it wasn't safe

Fuck being told you're not allowed to do something! You are an adult. I've been to New York on my own several times. I still have all my limbs. Don't go with them if you won't enjoy it but don't begrudge him if he wants to go either.