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Feeling degraded

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Julcol · 26/07/2017 18:35

I left my ex 18 mths ago much against his wishes at the time. Long story lots of problems, he had refused financial help for me to leave, has dragged out all proceedings refused to declare finances. I lodge with someone as I can't afford my own place until settlement, I have a low wage and long term health problems which contributed to the breakup. My ex has a good job savings, moved on with new girlfriend 3 months after begging me to stay, etc. He promised he would help me financially until things were sorted, however this has not happened, divorce isn't filled so court can't help until it is , I have stopped asking for my monthly payments as I feel degraded because he doesn't pay it anyway I used to have to remind him but then it just stopped no reply no explanation I have instructed my solicitor to ask his solicitor as the payment was agreed through them , I left everything 25 years of my home life only have clothes and photos, he won't listen to the children, his girlfriend is a lawyer so he gets free legal advice as well. It's the complete disregard of 25 years of being with someone putting 100% into family then just being treated like a nobody he knows I'm struggling financially he just doesn't care, I feel very lonely and dejected, I have friends family but I find it hard to discuss this with anyone like I must not deserve what is by law my right, sorry for the long speech

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thegoodnameshadgone · 26/07/2017 18:56

File for divorce if you haven't already. Get a solicitor. It WILL get better. Start playing this fucker at his own game. It will get better. Hope your ok and I'm not great with words. Someone more eloquent and with better advice will no doubt be along in a minute. I didn't want to read and run. Xx

Julcol · 26/07/2017 20:04

Thank you he has apparently filed as I couldn't afford the costs I originally started but I just don't have the money, I'm just waiting for it to be in the system so I can fight him! It's the fact I think that someone you spent 25 years with father of children can do this, I am a soft nature person and don't like thinking bad about anyone I could never have done something like this, I just have to get stronger he is intimidating and bully!

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