Losing friends in your 40s

[Summersoul]

Hey
Just wondered if anyone has experience of drifting apart from long standing friends later in life? I'm currently experiencing some playground behaviour from my long standing friend which has hurt me very much x don't really know what to do tbh but be interesting to hear others experiences

I'm not 40 yet. A few months time but its certainly a problem for me. A lot of it is because I moved around a lot and now live abroad but its happening here too and its getting harder to connect with people too.

DH notices it as well. And we make an effort to keep in touch with people and often just get ignored. Sorry its happening to you too.

Even my DM experiences this kind of behavior and says its just modern life.

I have a friend that I have distanced myself from. Partly due to distance (they live on the other side of the large city we are in) but also because i have realized that we have a values clash. She is phenomenally selfish and I see it play out in so many of her relationships (including ours). I thought I just can't be bothered anymore. I feel it is in part me growing up and being more confident in who I am and who I want to be around. I still see her with other friends but it's much much less than what it has been. Actually it's really nice now.