Old neighbour

[Wonders71]

We have lived in our street for 4 years! know most of the neighbours to say hello to. At the end of our row of houses is a bungalow only ever seen a man cleaning his car and doing his garden anywho on friday a carer came over to me and my husband as we were leaving to do our shopping and asked if we could buy the old person in the bungalow some milk as she had run out! We did and i popped it in as it turns out its a lady of 91 who lives on her own. She invited me in as she could not open her milk i offered to make her a cup of tea we had a little chat and she cried saying i should not of done it but was really pleased i did as the carers had told her if she ran out of milk to stand outside her back gate and ask passing mums if they would go and get her some! She asked if i would pop in again my wwyd is should i wait till i see the man who i thought lived there and ask if its ok or should i just pop in to see if she needs anything?

Ah she sounds lovely. . Pop in whenever you get the chance. I used to do shopping on a Fri at M&S for my neighbour!! She never asked for anything else, had a chat at the back door but never made a nuisance of herself (in the nicest way). I went to her funeral and bawled my eyes out.

If she has family i dont want them to panic that a stranger has been in her house if she suddenly starts talking about it.

If she wants you there and isn't obviously suffering from dementia then go. She is old not a child. She gets to invite guests in to her home not her children.

Of course you should pop in , if you have the time.
She would probably love the company as much as anything, but you could ask her if she wants something if you are going to the shop, or pop round with a piece of cake/ crumble / pie when you've made one.

backforgood if i went round with any of them i would not be asked back (shit cook)

My neighbour had never married or had dc but she had a dn and dn who I only met at the funeral. Having family doesn't mean she can't have friends. ...

Oh definitely go in if you liked her and have the time. I honestly think this is the saddest side of our society. Elderly people becoming isolated really worries me. Have you heard of silver line? It's a charity that pairs elderly people who are lonely with befreinders who call up once a week just for a chat. It's a lifeline to some people to have a friendly voice natteringon and linking the to the world outside. I've my toddlers are in nursery in September I'll be signin up. It's all anonymous do the befriended calls silverline who then connect them to their person and the charity covers the cost of the calls. Maybe mention it to her? I she has that and knows you're around and a friendly face in real life to say hello to it could make all the difference to her if she's isolated.

www.thesilverline.org.uk/what-we-do/

(Take biscuits when they're on BOGOF?)

Wonders

You did a lovely thing for a lonely old lady. Pop in when ever you feel you can (maybe offer to get some shopping for her or some other small favour ...).