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Pay per head children's party - siblings

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PugwallsSummer · 18/07/2017 10:44

Have pushed the boat out this year to give my young DS a birthday party at the venue of his dreams. It's pay per head and not cheap but it is good value for money and something he has always wanted to do so I have stretched his birthday budget, he's not getting as many presents to make it more manageable, and he sees the party as one of his presents. He's a lovely little boy and deserves something special.

Anyway. A few parents have RSVP'd to say they are either struggling with childcare for sibling or have a sibling that would love to come along, would this be ok. They are all really lovely people - and generally bring siblings along to parties in halls / homes (the children aren't at the drop & run age yet) so the siblings are part of the group in a way. There is no cheekiness in their requests, they are nice, genuine people.

My response has been along the lines of - there will be plenty of adults and venue staff to manage if parents can't stay, but happy for siblings to come along if they are payed for on the door.

I feel really crass asking people to pay/mentioning money but really can't afford to have several children added to the final invoice.

Would you do the same? would you feel awkward/embarrassed about it? Or am I thinking too much..

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pinkunicornsarefluffy · 18/07/2017 10:52

No, YANBU to ask for payment. They are cheeky for asking but if you don't mind then give but you certainly shouldn't be paying for them.

RueDeDay · 18/07/2017 10:52

You are over thinking! That's absolutely fine to say.

pinkunicornsarefluffy · 18/07/2017 10:54

give = fine!

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2014newme · 18/07/2017 10:58

Yanbu
If it's the venue of his dreams it must be somewhere pretty amazing and cost a fortune!

Justhadmyhaircut · 18/07/2017 11:00

You are pretending your surname is Beckham and have booked The Palace haven't you??

2014newme · 18/07/2017 11:02

And again, the Beckhams didn't have their child's birthday at the palace she wasn't a school trip. Just a reminder fir those short on comprehension skills

BrieAndChilli · 18/07/2017 11:03

I would always pay for a sibling at somewhere that was pay per head, if I had to take them to a hall party I would make them sit with me unless specifically told to join in by the host (and I would have checked before hand ok to bring them)

Justhadmyhaircut · 18/07/2017 11:05

Fir those? Mm spelling errors and comprehension lacking on the same thread. Tut tut.

2014newme · 18/07/2017 11:09

Back to the op's thread...

Gizlotsmum · 18/07/2017 11:11

Just tell them as you suggested. Siblings can come as long as the parents pay. Lot's just did this when I had a similar one for dd

Yokohamajojo · 18/07/2017 11:20

I do think it's cheeky, I had to bring my younger DS to many parties, and he stays with me or we go somewhere else for the duration of the party. Of course you should ask for payment, do keep in mind that loads of little siblings who can't do some of the activities or are in the way can also be very distracting for your DC and his/her friends

PugwallsSummer · 18/07/2017 11:41

Thanks for the responses and confirmation that it's not socially unacceptable to ask people to pay - this is reassuring!

Sorry all, I'm not VB and venue definitely not Buckingham palace - that made me smile 😄

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