Giving residence to my sons dad

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Son is 3.

I don't want to be a working mum. I've been doing it now for 6 months and while i love my son, I hate getting him to the childminder, getting him dressed for nursery, getting g home to entertaining him.

I know things won't always be this hard. But they're going g to be tough for many more years until he's older.

I don't want to do it anymore.

His dad wants to reduce to part time and be the Resident parent. I'd love to do this but everyone said don't do it. I will lose all control of my son.

I'm not sure I even care about that though. Once he's older my son can see me whenever he wants anyway.

I'd not miss my son in the week and would be able to devout my time to his once I'm home.

Would I be mad to do this?

I'm not entitled to any tax credits of any kind anyway as my income is too high. So I'm not giving up benefits. My life would be easier.

I don't see why not if it'd be easier for you. You'd still see your son and if you and ex are amicable then I can't see anything going wrong!
I hate the 'you'll lose control' thing. Why? Are people using their children as pawns to fight the other parent? It's dumb and if you trust your ex it'll be fine.
Would your life and your child's be Better? If yes then do it!!

You sound depressed. My DD is three and I have two others. My life is bloody tough and some days I could give the three year old away. You will regret this decision though. The pre school years are hard. Give you and your son a chance.

If you feel this way towards being a parent - consider what is in the best interests of your son.

If you feel, he would be happier, better nurtured etc with his father and that you'd be a better mother on a P/T basis then that seems like a good result.

I have no bond with my son.

Could you try this for a few weeks/months op? Would your ex agree to trial period.
Maybe you do need some headspace.
However you arrange residence I would seriously consider accessing help to enable you to bond with your son. Have you always felt like this? Xxx

Tried everything. The moment he was born I realised what a huge mistake he was. He's brought nothing to my life. Wish he wasn't here.

I think you need to get an appointment with your GP.
Parenting is so hard, and I can't imagine how I would feel going it alone. You need help. Please don't think that your son would be better off without you permanently, that isn't true.
He does need you to be happy and healthy - seeing your gp would be a good start.
I would resist making any serious decisions until you have spoken to someone more qualified to advise you xx

you've posted about this several times now