Am I in the wrong?

[Fayeh91]

Ok so over the weekend I posted a video on snapchat of me and my partner sat on the sofa cuddling and where he felt my boob saying "I need to touch it I won't touch the nipple" I sent it him as a joke and placed it on my story (where all my friends can see this, with intention to take it down before anyone saw just for a quick laugh and joke)

He in my eyes completely over reacted saying I invaded his privacy I don't think about the consequences and how anyone could have Sen it in the short period of time it was up there I had no control anyone could have been online and saw it. This resulted in a long argument 4hours of discussion where he stormed out. I tried to stop him and said if he leaves he is willing to throw our relationship away over a pathetic argument.
Today he told me less than 24hours away from walkin out he has created a dating profile and started "casually" talking to 3 women with no intention to date/ try anything because I used the words "I don't care... leave if you want to... I'm finished so what you want" I asked why he did this and he said because I hurt him and he wanted to give me a taste of my own medicine

My questions basically are first of all am I in the wrong? Is what I did unacceptable? Am I over reacting? Or am I being manipulated? I suffer from depression and anxiety and I am trying to figure out if this is part of this or if this is normal?

I can understand him being a bit annoyed about the video but his reaction seems really OTT. The fact that he told you he's created a dating profile proves he done it purely to hurt you and not actually to date anyone, which makes him very immature and quite cruel.

How long have you been together? Has he over-reacted to other things?

YWBU to post it BUT he sounds like a total bellend and I think you're well rid of him.

We've been together almost a year. We do seem to have petty arguments but never where he has done something like this to hurt me after.

I apologised for posting the video and took it down before anyone saw it and I do see it was bad even if it was a joke but I just wanted to see if I deserve feeling so hurt and if the things he is doing in response are normal

If you've apologised and he's not accepting it then let him get on with it. I'm not too sure I'd be in a hurry to get back with someone who's going to set up a dating profile every time there's a disagreement, he's bang out of order for that. Do you live together?

You are both out of order, you for posting a private moment for your friends to giggle at and him for starting a dating profile just to upset you. The fact that you've argued for 4 hours over it, (rather than you saying "sorry, I shouldn't have done that, I understand why you're annoyed" and him saying thanks instead of storming out) and that it has escalated so massively into this, I'd say cut your losses. His reaction to this is incredibly immature, but you shouldn't have done it either, and by saying "I don't care, leave if you want to" you haven't really helped.

No we don't live together. I've again sincerely apologised today for what I did I see it was bang out of order but he is rufusing to apologise for the dating sites. He says he thought we were over and that's the normal thing to do. He is making me feel ill and it's just so toxic!

Yeah I completely agree too I shouldn't say I don't care when I clearly do. I just wanted to hurt him like he hurt me. But two wrongs don't make a right and no way does it create a strong healthy relationship

Please don't apologise to him again. You've already said sorry and he goes on a dating site? Seriously, who does that?

He sounds like he's milking it now, enjoying making you suffer. Tell him to eff off and see how quick he comes running back. Guaranteed he'd get the shock of his life.

You were wrong but that is not a normal reaction. He is making a much bigger deal of it than is reasonable. It sounds like he likes having you beg his forgiveness over and over and had no problem with deliberately hurting you over something that was a stupid mistake quickly rectified.

Someone who goes out of their way to hurt the person they are 'supposed' to love is not a nice person at all. I would have a long hard think about whether you want to stay with someone who would hurt you and essentially blackmail you into grovelling to them.

The way I see it is you might have made a mistake posting the video. However, why did you post the video? To make him laugh, it was innocent.
Now his mistake; it was premeditated, no remorse and why did he do it? To hurt you.

Two possible wrongs but one accidental with the best intentions, one malicious and controlling.

If he knows you have anxiety he is an even bigger dick.

I have been there leave him you fill find someone who truly loves and understands your quirks.

If you don't leave it will get worse and you will wish you did it now!

Good luck and lots of love xxxx