Subjected to tirade of sexist abuse by builder next door

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Am shaken, I arrived home to see my driveway had been blocked by lorry unloading bricks for neighbour. I parked at side of road and took the kids out so we could walk into house. At this stage I was carrying all the kids bags.
Builder said 'can you move your car', (it was legally parked and not obstructing anyone). I said you are blocking my driveway and I will come back out of the house and move it. He then subjected me (in front of the kids) to a whole load of abuse including 'I need a sticking from my husband, i obviously don't get enough and he would sort his wife out if she spoke to him like that'. I asked him not to swear in front of kids. Anyway what response should I give to someone so sexist? I am annoyed that I couldn't confront him with something intelligent. There were other builders around

What a disgusting individual.

I'd be tempted to ask your neighbour for the company or look on their van. Then report.

Or, as sexist me. seem to respond to other men, get your husband to go round and ask exactly why the builder was speculating about how often he gets some with a reminder that he'll lose his shit if the builder dare speaks to his wife like that again.

I'd park right up to his bumper. Vile man.

I think you should complain to the neighbour and find out if he is an employee or the owner of the company.

Write down as much as you can remember of what he said.

Find out the company he works for, either from van or neighbour.

Contact the company, DO NOT MINIMISE IT.

That is fucking disgusting behaviour.

What would I have done??
Told him that it was none of his business, that he was a pathetic bully to say such things, and that I hoped his parents were proud to have raised such a pathetic snivelling man, who took his frustrations out on women and kids.

Then reported him to his company.

find out the company and write a review on checkatrade, local business sites etc.

I know the name of the company, can't leave a review on check a trade without giving your details.
The neighbour knows as I told him but he is non confrontational.
I feel like I am back in the 80s where this was the norm from builders. I am angry with myself that I didn't have a good response and that my kids had to experience their mum being talked to like this. I want a stock, witty response to use next time

I want a stock, witty response to use next time

'All of this is being recorded and sent to your boss, who specifically asked me to record it if you did it again. So thanks for that'.

And record it. And send it to the boss.

Does he own the company/work for himself or does he have a boss?

I wouldn't use a "witty respond". It's too serous to be witty. I would say "you're attitude is discistung. I will be reporting you" and go inside.

If he speaks to a woman in the street like he spoke to you, god knows what he's like to the women in his life .

Please excuse typos! I'm typing with a poorly finger!

That is absolutely disgusting behaviour. Your neighbour is also disgusting and hiding behind a non-confrontational manner!

Please report this to the building firm and, if it turns out that he's the owner, I think you'd be perfectly justified with a phone call to 101.

I hope you're ok OK

I'm my area, that would class as a hate crime. Sexist abuse is viewed as hate crime in some areas.

i'd see it as a hate crime as well. how horrible!

You should phone 101 OP and report him.

WWID? At the time, I'd pull out my phone and say I was going to record his abuse.

Afterwards, I'd report to police and his company. Calmly tell company that they can't afford to be associated with such criminal behaviour.

Then, tell as many people to tell as many people as possible.

No witty response. It implies his language is just bantz and can be laughed off as a joke.

Call his boss and complain.

Ring the company and tell them you'll never be using them and will advise other people to avoid them too.

What details do you have to give on checkatrade? I would consider setting up a new email for this if email is required.