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Original poster

Getting Snipped as DP's 40th "Birthday present"

26 replies

Daddyhome · 08/06/2017 22:02

I offered DP years ago that I would get snipped after she turned 40 if she wanted me to. I totally get the risk of childbirth and horrors of the pill and want to do my bit, even if it is only a little bit.
So in about 18 months time I expect be tying a ribbon and some balloons to it and getting snipped.
DP is a bit offhanded so I'm not sure if she thinks I am serious or she is just tired as DC3 is 8 weeks- not too encouraging and not great for my HUGE male ego. ;)
So how would you show your DP appreciation for manning up and getting snipped? Kudos for funny responses. :)

OP posts:
ImperialBlether · 08/06/2017 22:06

If you've three children, she's 38.5 and doesn't want more, why not do it now?

I think I'd be pissed off that you thought it was a present! I know you're joking (or I hope you are) but she's knackered and doesn't intend having sex with you ever again right now!

Sparklingbrook · 08/06/2017 22:07

What a terrible present. Sad

NotAUserNumberSoNotATroll · 08/06/2017 22:12

She's had 3 children- you getting snipped is you showing her your appreciation!

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QueenofEsgaroth · 08/06/2017 22:18

Just get it done if you both agree, unless that is you are planning to fit a couple more pregnancies in before hand...imagine if it was twins, or triplets Grin

Tinseleverywhere · 08/06/2017 22:20

Are you sure she doesn't secretly want more dc?

TheAntiBoop · 08/06/2017 22:20

wow - what do you want exactly? a ticker tape parade?

i know you are being lighthearted but your post is ultimately about how women are deemed to be responsible for contraception

Original poster
Daddyhome · 08/06/2017 22:21

Yep, I am joking, I want to get her something nice for her birthday as she really is my DP.
40 is a sensible time to have a serious think on the matter, and not sure if we are calling it a day at the moment. The NHS advice is not to do it after a major life event - like having a baby.

OP posts:
e1y1 · 08/06/2017 22:22

Haha!!! A present? (for whom?).

I'd go the whole hog and chop the entire thing off if you offered that as a present.

ImperialBlether · 08/06/2017 22:40

Why don't you get married? It's not just a piece of paper, you know.

leighdinglady · 08/06/2017 22:43

You seem to think you're doing her a favour by taking responsibility for contraception?

elevenclips · 08/06/2017 22:43
Confused
ImperialBlether · 08/06/2017 22:51

Unbelievable, isn't it, leighdinglady?!

timeisnotaline · 08/06/2017 22:58

I'm with e1y1. Women swallow inject implant and insert hormones for years. You are finally shouldering some of the weight. I'd be deeply unimpressed at you calling that a present, lighthearted or no.

WellErrr · 08/06/2017 23:01

You seem to think you're doing her a favour by taking responsibility for contraception?

Anyone wondering why men quite often get their arses handed to them on here - it's because they usually post shite like this.

expatinscotland · 08/06/2017 23:02

It's not a present. I didn't have to 'show my man' (who is my husband) appreciation for shouldering contraception, he didn't see it as all my job in the first place.

TheAntiBoop · 08/06/2017 23:05

well op i hope you're starting to understand why your dp has been offhand about the whole thing - particularly if you keep bringing it up in a 'funny' way. She's just given birth - i don't think she will be worried about you going through the pain of the snip

cloudchasing · 08/06/2017 23:13

Now then. I'm always up for the lighthearted threads, I'm not one of those PO people.

This really isn't funny. Deep down you think you're doing her a great favour, and she probably knows that.

Have you actually thought about what she's done medically over the years?

'Manning up' is the very least you can do.

timeisnotaline · 09/06/2017 09:03

The very very least. It gets you a place at the table, not a strong and equal position.

AramintaJolly · 09/06/2017 09:07

I'd have been FURIOUS had my partner 'given' me this as a present

Do it or don't do it as a mutual decision but not as a present fgs

Diamonds always go down well

MrsJayy · 09/06/2017 09:07

No wonder she seems pissed off you are a couple you dont get the snip like it is a massive favour to her on her birthday have a word with yourself and just get it done,

expatinscotland · 09/06/2017 09:13

What are you planning on using for the next 18 months plus the time it takes to get the all clear?

TestTubeTeen · 09/06/2017 09:14

Has a section of vas deferens replaced a Pandora bead as the 'must have' trophy to wear on your wrist?

OP:

Have a serious mutual conversation about whether your family is complete
Proceed accordingly, depending on your joint decision
Remove any reference to HER age being part of the decision
and
Arrange fantastic 40th birthday celebration and present which is not to do with contraception.

In short: what are you thinking man?

MrsJayy · 09/06/2017 09:17

It is only a joke when the other person laughs though did you hear her chuckiling ?

Only1scoop · 09/06/2017 09:18

'Has a section of vas deferens replaced a Pandora bead as the 'must have' trophy to wear on your wrist?'Grinactually just spat Weetabix

kateclarke · 09/06/2017 09:21

OP you do sound like a massive arse.

After what your DP has been through over the years, the snip is nothing.

You sound like you want a medal.

Also, people who think they are really funny never are.