My parents often call each other names not nice names and speak over each other. Then look rejected when I choose to listen to the 'other' one. My mother steers the conversation to 'I' (as in herself) all the time. I always ask her how she is and what she has been up to but it turns into a lot of 'I' until my eyes have blurred and mind has wandered off. Then they slag each other off more and call each other names. Even if they're apart the conversation is about how the other is difficult.
So my aibu that I don't want to spend a lot of time listening to them? Which in turn means I don't see them very much.
I do realise this is the way they have always been to each other and not asking them to change their ways. Find it draining.