What would you do?
Don't know where to go with this, so please bear with me?
Before we start, I must stress that this is all my fault, I'm just asking for advice.
Back story: A few years ago, we became friendly with another couple, Jon and Fran (not their real names).
Dh already knew Jon through work, and I'd met him once or twice, before Jon met Fran.
We hit it off with Fran, so we went out as a foursome a few times, and with other friends also.
A couple of years passed when a couple of tragedies took place.
Fran's Dad passed away. I only met him once as he was severely disabled, virtually bedbound, and needed 24hr care.
Anyway, this is where I am at fault. I let Fran down. At a time when she needed support, I wasn't there for her. I am so ashamed. Still ashamed. We didn't receive an invite to the funeral, just a notice in the paper inviting friends to the wake so as I had only met her Dad the once, I didn't think it was our place to go, so we didn't. Didn't think to send a card/flowers either, just froze. Froze. I apologised afterwards with a letter, and a phone call.
Since then, things haven't been the same with Fran and me. Although we go out as a foursome still, things are awkward between us. She won't go out with me on our own, always somebody there, like her Mum, or other friends. If I try to initiate something, she goes cold. Although we have been there for them since when their little boy died, it's still awkward.
She is ok sometimes, encouraging me to get back into sewing when I lost a lot of confidence, and buying stuff I've made, but then sits with her phone while dh and Jan are chatting away.
I don't know whether to suck it up, or say something. What would you do? I