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Hi all, i am new to this site and im looknig for advice, emotional support or opinions, anything just need to get it out and find help. i am 34 years old and just found out im pregnant with my fifth child!! Totally unplanned!! My partner has just had his first appointment for snip and now this! He doesnt know yet im pregnant and im little worried telling him, i know hw doesnt want another child. Last year in december i had an abortion and it affected us both, is truggled with it really badly and theres no way i can go ahead with another one!! :( but i know having another child will turn all of our lives upside down!i am worried about my children and husband and people who will frown upon me for having load of kids!! I dont know what to do and i would really appreciate some kind words of advice or support. do any of you lovely ladies have 5 kids?how do u cope?thank you xxxx

Might I suggest posting again, but with a proper title?

how do i do it?

Probably best to report your post and in the text box that comes up ask MNHQ very nicely if they can change your thread title rather than having multiple posts.

Sounds like you're in a difficult situation. Sadly no one on here will be able to tell you what to do, but it might help you to lay out your thoughts and reasoning. I'm sure others will be along who know better than I the numbers you can call for support.

There is a section on here for people with larger families, so it might be worth having a look at some of the posts in there, in case there's anything that might help you. The link is here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/larger_families

The only advice I can think of to give you is to stop thinking about what other people might think, and to focus on yourself, and what's right for you, your children, and your husband (in that order!)