Do I stay or go?

[Lisa282820]

I recently miscarried at 12 weeks 😞 Emotionally and physically I feel I am getting better however I wish I could say the same about my relationship.
I felt like dh was very insensitive during and after the MC ( an example could be where he told me to stop moping the day after or where he said it wasn't even a baby but a collection of cells!)
Four weeks on we are at loggerheads constantly about anything and everything.
We both seem so angry at one another.
It has gotten to the point where I'm thinking of leaving tomorrow as we have become so volatile with one another and there seems to be no end to it.
Has anyone else been through anything similar and did things get better?
Any advice would be appreciated x

Latest from DH during attack upon my return ' I thank my lucky stars we didn't have that baby'
My mind is made up!
I'm leaving him...

I'm someone who believes that if I wanted an abortion it is technically a set or cells or whatever he said ... but when you WANTED the child then it is instantly your baby and he had no right so say this a year or even ten years after the MC let alone one day! Give a girl a chance to grieve ffs.

Maybe some men find it sifficult to understand the difference it makes when it was in your body ? Maybe he's grieving but unaware so is acting out ?

I'm so sorry for your loss Lisa. I think your husband was only trying to help by pointing out that it wasn't a 'baby' yet. After all, we don't get upset when having a period or killing sperm with a condom and they could turn into babies too. I hope things settle down for you x

User - it was 12 weeks gestation - it was of course a baby. A period or sperm isn't fertilised - there's a massive difference. you have been very insensitive and quite hurtful to the millions of women who have lost a baby after conception.

So sorry OP, just seen today's update.

Take time to think things through, if you're certain that you want to separate, that doesn't have to mean a divorce but maybe some space to work through the issues.

Maybe now is the time for joint counselling if he'd be open to that?

I hope that whatever happens is the best for you both, whether it's together or apart.