DS (4.5) has a delayed non-IGE dairy allergy. It's reasonably severe - about a week after he has any milk product, he has a bout of throwing up, uncontrollable diarrhoea, and nights of screaming agony that can go on for hours on end.
School know this. They have a dietitian's letter on record, plus we have always said that if they are doing any cooking or anything, we are happy to provide an alternative so that DS can join in safely.
School allows kids to bring in chocolates etc for their birthdays, and now a whole load of stuff for Easter. They also use sweets and chocolates as rewards. As a result, three times in the past year, DS has had milk chocolate. The last time, this resulted in school having to clear up the diarrhoea, which started mid-afternoon - you'd think this might have meant they would be a bit more alert. But no. It's just happened again. DS has come out of school proudly chomping on a milk chocolate bunny. Which the teacher gave him, so he assumed it would be ok. Plus, he's four. It's really hard for him to make the connection between eating milk and a delayed reaction, so sometimes he gets it wrong, despite being better than many adults at managing his allergy. Besides, chocolate is pretty tempting to a four-year-old!
I am pretty upset. If he had an immediate, anaphylactic reaction, they wouldn't have a choice but to be more vigilant. I feel as though they aren't taking it seriously, because it is a delayed reaction. Am I overreacting? And if not, what is reasonable for me to request from the school so this doesn't happen again?