Two of my friends work together. A is a really good friend of mine. B I know less well but we met up for a few drinks recently as she had been struggling with depression and her marriage is not going well, so have been a bit of a shoulder to cry on.
They've had a row at work which has escalated enormously. From what I can see, B made a mistake and tried to cover herself by blaming A. A showed management some emails making it clear that the mistake was B's. Off the back of this B then accused A and some others in their team of bullying and racial discrimination, but as far as I know this has not been upheld.
A is livid with B's behaviour. And she's my better friend of the two of them.
I can't help worrying about B, though. She's been quite severely depressed and I know her life is not easy at the moment. From what I have heard, she is in the process of a discipliniary over this (the lying and unfounded accusations) and in danger of losing her job. I don't know whether her poor mental health led to what sounds like an escalating set of poor decisions.
If she'd done it to anyone else, I would try to support her because I think we all fuck up sometimes. But I know that A would feel betrayed if she knows that I am offering any support to B, who has basically been a humongous bitch to her.
Is there any way to do right by both of them or do I have to pick a side?