My dearest friend of at least 25 years has been going through a time of it. She is in the midst of an affair and has had troubles with her DH of her own, has recently made a ton of new friends via a group online and so always has a lot to tell me when we meet up.
For 3+ months I have diligently listened, given advice, sympathy, text her all the time when there was "news", met her for coffee at difficult times etc.
And now I have just had some news of my own. I am pregnant with DC3, rather unexpectedly and v soon after DC2 (we are shocked but really pleased!) I had fertility treatment for DC2 which makes this all the more surprising! I text her immediately on Boxing Day and I have barely received a word back. Told her last week I was going in to hosp for tests as we had no idea how far I was along etc and only just now did she ask how it went. And all the while I can see that she is constantly online and messaging these new friends 20+ times a day with inane things like "what's your favourite cartoon character" type stuff. So it's not time that's stopping her from asking. It's lack of care. I feel like she's a different person and is quickly losing track with reality as she is always in this online world with her new friends and this guy she's seeing. I've tried the hard line of "what if your DH finds out" but she has no real practical ideas, just very noncommittal responses.
WWYD? Am I expecting too much of her right now just to bloody text and show an interest?