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Do I tell her??

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flowers221 · 04/12/2016 23:32

I've recently been told by a good friend's mother's ex partner that the mother is a prostitute and has been for 8 years! Apparently she is on an escorting websites and meets men everyday for sex in hotels, cars, their home etc the ex partner said it's the reason they split up. My question is do I tell my friend? I do feel like it's none of my business and I should just stay out of it but if my friend was to find out and then realise that I've known and didn't say anything I don't want her feelings to be hurt, wwyd?

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FromAtoB · 04/12/2016 23:34

No. do not tell.

If she finds out you 'knew' just say you assumed it was bollocks and thought no more about it. Peddling this kind of gossip can only bring you trouble.

DearMrDilkington · 04/12/2016 23:38

Wait.. you've been told by who?

A friends mothers ex boyfriend?! Sounds like chinese whispers tbh.

Finola1step · 04/12/2016 23:41

So her ex has told you this and you believe it?

WatchingFromTheWings · 04/12/2016 23:42

Maybe your friend knows?

FannyWisdom · 04/12/2016 23:42

Keep out..

Least said, soonest mended.

InTheKitchenAtParties · 04/12/2016 23:42

Not your business. Don't get involved. If it is true and your friend finds out, deny all knowledge. TBH, it sounds like someone is just slandering and shit-stirring.

SuperRainbows · 04/12/2016 23:44

Wouldn't say a word if I were you.

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flowers221 · 04/12/2016 23:45

That's the thing also I didn't want to tell her to then find out it wasn't true! He sounded very genuine when he told me- infact he assumed I already knew and just started talking about it until he noticed my face. I'm glad you're all saying not to tell as it wasn't really something I'd want to come from me anyway. I can't help feeling a little guilty when I see her though just because I feel like I'm holding something back from her but you're right none of my business!

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flowers221 · 04/12/2016 23:47

Plus on the other hand if the mother's ex partner is just going around talking about it to anyone (we are not close) then she's bound to find out off her own accord sooner or later anyway

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Pallisers · 04/12/2016 23:48

So her ex has told you this and you believe it?

This. Why do you believe him. He is her ex. He could be saying anything about her to make mischief. Is he saying he lived with a prostitute for the past number of years? Seriously?

And why did he tell you? I'll answer that - so you would report back to her daughter and cause mayhem.

If she is, then that is something the family need to find out/deal with together. Stay out of it.

Whether it is true or not this man's motivations are toxic.

Pallisers · 04/12/2016 23:51

Plus on the other hand if the mother's ex partner is just going around talking about it to anyone (we are not close) then she's bound to find out off her own accord sooner or later anyway

yes she will find out that this man is saying all sorts about her mother. But not from you.

If it is true you can say you didn't say anything because you didn't believe it to be true and simply dismissed it.

If it is untrue you can say you didn't say anything because you didn't believe it to be true and simply dismissed it.

SparkleSoiree · 04/12/2016 23:51

What Pallisers said.

Absolutely.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 04/12/2016 23:51

If it was me I'd say to her 'You know Fred? He's just told me that the reason your Mum & him broke up is that she's working as an escort!'

DearMrDilkington · 04/12/2016 23:51

This is bizzare. Why would you say anything? It's nothing to do with her daughter, if its even true.

Stay out of it and stop trying to cause drama.

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flowers221 · 04/12/2016 23:53

He told me it's the reason they split, he had no idea she was doing this and came across her page on a website (don't ask why he was on there) he specifically told me not to tell her daughter too which was abit weird but you're probably right, his intentions were to slander the mother either way. Knowing this woman however it doesn't seem like an impossible accusation but then again maybe that's why he's said it! I'm just going to pretend I never heard it to be honest

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MrsDustyBusty · 04/12/2016 23:54

Presumably if the mothers wanted your friend to know this aspect of her business (if true), she is able to do it herself. If she has chosen not to mention it, who are you to overrule her decision?

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flowers221 · 04/12/2016 23:57

I am in no way trying to cause drama otherwise I would have just told her by now. I care for my friends feelings and wanted an outsiders views, I really was trying to avoid not mentioning it. I understand the mother has the right to a private life and I respect that 100% I honestly wish I'd never been told it's information I could have done without, I'm just trying to spare a very good friends feelings which is why I thought maybe I should be the one to tell her the rumours before she hears it elsewhere but I won't I'll let it take its course

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flowers221 · 04/12/2016 23:57

I meant trying to avoid mentioning it

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FannyWisdom · 04/12/2016 23:58

Knowing the woman?

If you used her escorts services personally that qualifies you to comment.

If you haven't then you are being spiteful and bitchy, saying it's not an impossible accusation.

If she is, she is and it's fuck all to do with you, her dd and her ex.

Agerbilatemycardigan · 05/12/2016 00:12

Personally, I would take anything that an ex partner says with a pinch of salt.

colourchameleon · 05/12/2016 00:19

God NO. Stay well away. Otherwise your friend might end up misplacing bad feelings on to you. Shooting the messenger and all. Try to forget you know.

WhereYouLeftIt · 05/12/2016 00:29

When you say 'we are not close', I assume that the 'we' is this ex and yourself? So ask yourself - why would he tell you all this? What is his agenda? He sounds dodgy as fuck.

Honestly, I think I would have a quiet word with my friend's mother. Let her know that her ex approached you and what he said. She needs to know that she is being slandered so that she can deal with it/him.

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