My dog chewed my friends jacket

[chitofftheshovel]

A friend I have not seen for a while came round the other day. She took her jacket off in the kitchen, walked past the coat hooks and draped her jacket over the back of the sofa.

She has always wound my dog up, squeaking at her and encouraging her to jump up. Not sure if that is relevant.

So, we're drinking coffee in the kitchen. I hear something happening in the sitting room, can see friends jacket on the floor and the dog, I assumed at the time using it as a bed. Called the dog through. Only when we went to go for a walk it transpired that the dog had chewed both sleeves, I'd say 4 or 5 different 3 cm tears on jacket.

I was mortified, apologised, said I wasn't sure what I could do. Friend says it's ok and we go for our walk, kind of laugh about the incident together.
Fast forward to today and I receive a phone call from her stating that she's really upset about the jacket, it was given to her and although she has tried to fix it she has been unable to.

TBH I was totally caught off guard and she was definitely wheedling me to replace it with like, asking if I have contents insurance (I don't). Eventually I said I'd replace it, but that I had no idea where to find one similar so agreed that she would get one and text me the price.

I almost instantly regretted saying I would replace it, especially when I googled the brand and I'm looking at over £100. I have the money but only because I am very frugal and hardly ever spend money on myself, certainly not that amount for one item of clothing.

I'm upset by the manner in which she asked and can't see the friendship surviving.

So having said I'd replace it should I just suck it up? Or text and ask her to let me know before she makes a purchase to check price? Or ask her to contribute half? Or ask for her old jacket? What would you do?

I'd pay for it, similar situation to if my child broke a window with a football, I would feel responsible.

You should have offered to replace it straight away. Definitely replace it and in future don't expect guests to hang up their own coats, do it for them.

nospring I think they are too but fuckit!

Hindsight is a wonderful thing.

Can you ask her if it is covered on her insurance, and offer to pay the excess?

That's a good point pk.

pk I shall but doubt she has insurance. But I'll ask her.

Dog owner here and would be mortified if my dog ruined a friends coat! I wouldn't have let her have to ask and she probably was a bit pissed off at having to ask, must have been terribly embarrassing for her!
Doesn't matter if u live frugally or not

Was it a brand new coat? Or are we talking one that's had a few years wear? If you're replacing like with like then that should be factored in.

That said I would have offered in your shoes and declined in hers!

Yes ellie I have acknowledged the error of my ways up thread.

The age of the coat is irrelevant as she's not going to be able to buy an equally old one so would have to be replaced by new.

As for her not hanging her coat on the hook - I always take my guests coat and hang them up for them. I wouldn't expect them to know where to put them.

I think you are being harsh on your friend - she did say she had tried to have it mended.

It's a lesson learnt. Maybe you could ask if you could keep the damaged coat - your dog obviously liked it!

You should have offered to replace it immediately and without being asked.

moving I really don't know but think I just have to accept that the right thing to do is buy her a new jacket, the same brand and style (if possible) and new.
She said a friend gave it to her, that's all I know.

Erm, eBay TheAntiBoop??

Might be the only place if it's an old style.

Cross post boop.

I have never had my jacket taken and hung up for me when visiting people, this friend included, and have never done so for people visiting me. The coat hook is really obvious, she had to walk right past it and has been to my house before.

Ah don't ask her if she can claim on her insurance, that's adding insult to injury.

My last dog chewed my friends 300 quid pumps. I offered immediately to pay, even though I had said to her, put uour shoes up there, don't leave them on the floor, the dog, who was a puppy at the time, will eat them. And yup he did, and yes she refused my offer.

So yes, as other posters have said uou really should have offered to pay immediately and you should have hung her jacket up, I have friends over, they hang their coats on the back of chairs and I immediately hang them up even though I don't have a dog at the moment. You just need to get in the habit.

Don't let the friendship end over this, you just just say sorry uou should have offered st the time and pay for a new coat.

eBay if you're lucky ime!

Yes and I read all your replies but it still seems your trying to blame your friend for leaving her jacket on the sofa and frugally trying to get out of purchasing a new one

Most insurances you have to pay the first £100 or so anyway so not worth a claim

ellie I very quickly took people's comments on board and agreed I would have to buy a new jacket. I'm really not sure why you are saying I'm frugally trying to get out of it. But fuck it.

Didn't you see the rips after the dog got off the jacket? Was it left on the floor then? Surely it would've been obvious immediately that it was damaged?